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[00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:10.000] 各位好
[00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:13.400] 我们如果把亲子关系
[00:00:13.400 --> 00:00:16.280] 把它大致上区分一下
[00:00:16.280 --> 00:00:19.280] 应该可以分成三种
[00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:20.780] 而这三种呢
[00:00:20.780 --> 00:00:24.440] 其实各位脑海里面都会有
[00:00:24.440 --> 00:00:26.680] 只不过我们今天再把它
[00:00:26.680 --> 00:00:30.320] 离分得更清楚一点
[00:00:30.320 --> 00:00:32.660] 各位可以看到
[00:00:32.660 --> 00:00:37.700] 亲子关系比较偏重于朋友关系的
[00:00:37.700 --> 00:00:40.300] 就是西方人
[00:00:40.300 --> 00:00:41.800] 而我们以前呢
[00:00:41.800 --> 00:00:45.840] 是比较偏重于血缘关系
[00:00:45.840 --> 00:00:48.280] 但是现在我们是希望
[00:00:48.280 --> 00:00:50.740] 偏重于教养关系
[00:00:50.740 --> 00:00:53.680] 因为这两个有很大的不同
[00:00:53.680 --> 00:00:57.480] 我们以前太偏重血缘关系
[00:00:57.480 --> 00:01:03.420] 所以慢慢就变成利害关系
[00:01:03.420 --> 00:01:06.420] 因为鸽辈要向内弯
[00:01:06.420 --> 00:01:09.760] 到最后就不讲是非
[00:01:09.760 --> 00:01:13.500] 教养关系是非讲是非不可
[00:01:13.500 --> 00:01:15.100] 一定要重视品德
[00:01:15.100 --> 00:01:17.900] 这个不一定重视品德
[00:01:17.900 --> 00:01:19.840] 只要我们家里的人
[00:01:19.840 --> 00:01:23.240] 我们都可以替他隐瞒
[00:01:23.240 --> 00:01:25.580] 有一个孔子讲的话
[00:01:25.580 --> 00:01:29.280] 是全世界都在争论的
[00:01:29.280 --> 00:01:34.120] 就是说你的爸爸去偷了人家羊
[00:01:34.120 --> 00:01:36.820] 那派搜索人来到你家的调查
[00:01:36.820 --> 00:01:38.660] 就问儿子
[00:01:38.660 --> 00:01:41.460] 你爸爸有没有偷人家羊
[00:01:41.460 --> 00:01:42.760] 我不晓得你如果是这个儿子
[00:01:42.760 --> 00:01:44.560] 你怎么办
[00:01:44.560 --> 00:01:46.360] 有人说有吗
[00:01:46.360 --> 00:01:49.300] 你会去做证人吗
[00:01:49.300 --> 00:01:50.900] 这是一种
[00:01:50.900 --> 00:01:54.040] 一种是说我爸爸不是那种人
[00:01:54.040 --> 00:01:55.840] 我爸爸不会偷人家羊
[00:01:55.840 --> 00:01:58.540] 明明知道爸爸偷人家羊
[00:01:58.540 --> 00:02:01.480] 儿子要说我爸爸不是那种人
[00:02:01.480 --> 00:02:03.240] 不可能
[00:02:03.240 --> 00:02:05.080] 这是孔子讲的话
[00:02:05.080 --> 00:02:09.780] 父为子允 子为父允
[00:02:09.780 --> 00:02:10.860] 儿子做了坏事
[00:02:10.860 --> 00:02:15.160] 爸爸要替他隐瞒
[00:02:15.160 --> 00:02:16.660] 爸爸做了坏事
[00:02:16.660 --> 00:02:19.900] 儿子不能出面举证
[00:02:19.900 --> 00:02:21.600] 那很多人就批评孔子
[00:02:21.600 --> 00:02:24.040] 根本没有法治观念
[00:02:24.040 --> 00:02:28.300] 为了亲情 为了血缘
[00:02:28.300 --> 00:02:31.380] 你破坏法律
[00:02:31.380 --> 00:02:36.280] 我觉得我们有诚信的必要
[00:02:36.280 --> 00:02:39.320] 孔子他从来没有很肯定
[00:02:39.320 --> 00:02:40.520] 讲过任何事情
[00:02:40.520 --> 00:02:42.320] 这是孔子最了不起的
[00:02:42.320 --> 00:02:45.180] 而且他永远不会被打倒的原因
[00:02:45.180 --> 00:02:46.620] 一个人讲话讲很肯定
[00:02:46.620 --> 00:02:47.520] 总有人赞成你
[00:02:47.520 --> 00:02:49.800] 总有人反对你
[00:02:49.800 --> 00:02:51.000] 孔子的态度上是
[00:02:51.000 --> 00:02:54.800] 既不赞成也不反对的
[00:02:54.800 --> 00:02:57.240] 要了解孔子的思想
[00:02:57.240 --> 00:03:05.080] 这句话是非常重要的
[00:03:05.080 --> 00:03:09.580] 孔子的基本态度是无可无不可
[00:03:09.580 --> 00:03:14.180] 既没有什么可也没有什么不可
[00:03:14.180 --> 00:03:17.160] 所以我们今天常常把孔子的话
[00:03:17.160 --> 00:03:20.660] 把它解释得很僵硬
[00:03:20.660 --> 00:03:23.660] 那就叫做偏见
[00:03:23.660 --> 00:03:25.500] 孔子当年讲这句话
[00:03:25.500 --> 00:03:28.600] 是跟人家谈话的时候谈出来的
[00:03:28.600 --> 00:03:30.100] 有一个人告诉孔子说
[00:03:30.100 --> 00:03:32.240] 我们家乡啊
[00:03:32.240 --> 00:03:34.780] 如果爸爸偷了人家羊
[00:03:34.780 --> 00:03:36.640] 儿子一定要出证
[00:03:36.640 --> 00:03:38.080] 我爸爸偷人家羊
[00:03:38.080 --> 00:03:40.380] 我们很守法
[00:03:40.380 --> 00:03:41.420] 可是孔子他说
[00:03:41.420 --> 00:03:44.680] 我们家不一定是这样
[00:03:44.680 --> 00:03:46.020] 我们爸爸偷人家羊
[00:03:46.020 --> 00:03:48.720] 儿子不作证
[00:03:48.720 --> 00:03:50.260] 儿子做了坏事
[00:03:50.260 --> 00:03:54.460] 爸爸也不去宣扬
[00:03:54.460 --> 00:03:55.900] 孔子没有意思说
[00:03:55.900 --> 00:03:57.200] 非这样不可 没有
[00:03:57.200 --> 00:03:58.560] 他说我多一种选择嘛
[00:03:58.560 --> 00:04:01.500] 我给你多一种选择
[00:04:01.500 --> 00:04:03.400] 爸爸偷人家羊
[00:04:03.400 --> 00:04:04.740] 儿子也可以作证
[00:04:04.740 --> 00:04:06.240] 也可以不作证
[00:04:06.240 --> 00:04:08.880] 都可以
[00:04:08.880 --> 00:04:11.840] 我相信孔子的原意是这样
[00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:13.180] 因为孔子基本立场
[00:04:13.180 --> 00:04:15.480] 向来是摇摆不定的
[00:04:15.480 --> 00:04:16.380] 你会发现我们中国人
[00:04:16.380 --> 00:04:17.880] 都是摇摆不定
[00:04:17.880 --> 00:04:21.020] 这摇摆不定就是脚踏两只船
[00:04:21.020 --> 00:04:23.360] 见风两面倒
[00:04:23.360 --> 00:04:25.700] 听起来都非常恶劣
[00:04:25.700 --> 00:04:28.160] 其实是很艺术
[00:04:28.160 --> 00:04:32.600] 要看你自己层次怎么样
[00:04:32.600 --> 00:04:34.100] 看情形
[00:04:34.100 --> 00:04:35.200] 有的我要作证
[00:04:35.200 --> 00:04:37.840] 有的我不要作证
[00:04:37.840 --> 00:04:39.340] 我们的关系是变动的
[00:04:39.340 --> 00:04:40.400] 是变化的
[00:04:40.400 --> 00:04:42.900] 不是固定的
[00:04:42.900 --> 00:04:45.940] 中国人道理很少是固定的
[00:04:45.940 --> 00:04:47.440] 所以你可以在这里变来变去
[00:04:47.440 --> 00:04:51.280] 我不反对 我不反对
[00:04:51.280 --> 00:04:53.520] 西方的朋友关系
[00:04:53.520 --> 00:04:56.460] 他的占的成分相当高
[00:04:56.460 --> 00:04:58.420] 事实上西方也有血缘关系
[00:04:58.420 --> 00:05:01.260] 也有 不是没有
[00:05:01.260 --> 00:05:01.960] 各位要了解
[00:05:01.960 --> 00:05:03.700] 西方也是很混杂的
[00:05:03.700 --> 00:05:07.600] 各式各样的花样都有
[00:05:07.600 --> 00:05:09.260] 你看法国人
[00:05:09.260 --> 00:05:12.600] 他是天生的不想生小孩的民族
[00:05:12.600 --> 00:05:14.740] 所以法国现在很惨
[00:05:14.740 --> 00:05:18.040] 他人口一只一只减少
[00:05:18.040 --> 00:05:20.680] 那是很严重的问题
[00:05:20.680 --> 00:05:21.680] 因为一个民族
[00:05:21.680 --> 00:05:23.940] 只要没有新生的婴儿
[00:05:23.940 --> 00:05:26.080] 这个民族就快要断掉了
[00:05:26.080 --> 00:05:27.380] 就要灭绝掉
[00:05:27.380 --> 00:05:30.720] 不需要人家打我们
[00:05:30.720 --> 00:05:31.620] 这样各位才知道
[00:05:31.620 --> 00:05:33.920] 为什么很多国家一直鼓励生育
[00:05:33.920 --> 00:05:36.820] 一直鼓励生育
[00:05:36.820 --> 00:05:39.060] 像法国只要你愿意生两个小孩
[00:05:39.060 --> 00:05:41.100] 你一家四口统统政府给你钱
[00:05:41.100 --> 00:05:43.600] 你不比工作
[00:05:43.600 --> 00:05:44.760] 但是这么优惠的待遇
[00:05:44.760 --> 00:05:47.600] 他们都不想生
[00:05:47.600 --> 00:05:50.700] 可见亲子关系
[00:05:50.700 --> 00:05:54.340] 任务是很重大的
[00:05:54.340 --> 00:05:56.920] 你可以看到
[00:05:56.920 --> 00:05:59.980] 我们以前讲的是血缘关系
[00:05:59.980 --> 00:06:04.580] 血缘关系慢慢会变成利害主义
[00:06:04.580 --> 00:06:06.620] 为什么
[00:06:06.640 --> 00:06:11.420] 因为我们看到儿子比较强壮
[00:06:11.420 --> 00:06:14.560] 儿子比较有力气做事情
[00:06:14.560 --> 00:06:17.360] 所以我们就重视儿子不重视女儿
[00:06:17.360 --> 00:06:19.460] 女儿反正要嫁出去
[00:06:19.460 --> 00:06:21.560] 那就变成利害关系
[00:06:21.560 --> 00:06:23.300] 那亲情变成利害关系
[00:06:23.300 --> 00:06:27.260] 那就不像家人
[00:06:27.260 --> 00:06:29.940] 你去看
[00:06:29.940 --> 00:06:34.180] 妻子在产房里面要生小孩
[00:06:34.180 --> 00:06:35.540] 现在我们当然知道
[00:06:35.540 --> 00:06:37.140] 事先就知道生男生女
[00:06:37.140 --> 00:06:38.380] 但是我告诉各位
[00:06:38.380 --> 00:06:41.420] 有很多人还是不主张
[00:06:41.420 --> 00:06:43.360] 生之前去知道生男育女
[00:06:43.360 --> 00:06:45.460] 还是不主张
[00:06:45.460 --> 00:06:47.260] 我现在很多妇产科医生
[00:06:47.260 --> 00:06:49.820] 他有很精密的机器
[00:06:49.820 --> 00:06:51.660] 他一测就知道你是男的女的
[00:06:51.660 --> 00:06:54.560] 但他始终不告诉你
[00:06:54.560 --> 00:06:56.700] 因为怕制造问题
[00:06:56.700 --> 00:06:59.100] 刚怀孕几个月去验
[00:06:59.100 --> 00:07:00.040] 是个女的
[00:07:00.040 --> 00:07:01.640] 我就把他打掉
[00:07:01.640 --> 00:07:04.540] 那不是很糟糕
[00:07:04.540 --> 00:07:06.280] 所以有时候隐瞒是好事情
[00:07:06.280 --> 00:07:07.380] 不是坏事情
[00:07:07.380 --> 00:07:08.380] 一切都公开
[00:07:08.380 --> 00:07:12.040] 不见得是好事情
[00:07:12.040 --> 00:07:13.320] 对不对
[00:07:13.320 --> 00:07:15.080] 不让你知道还有一件好事情
[00:07:15.080 --> 00:07:18.420] 就生下来会有一个惊喜
[00:07:18.420 --> 00:07:20.160] 男的也高兴女的高兴
[00:07:20.160 --> 00:07:23.320] 如果老早什么都知道了
[00:07:23.320 --> 00:07:25.820] 那什么意思
[00:07:25.820 --> 00:07:28.440] 我讲一句话大家做参考
[00:07:28.440 --> 00:07:33.240] 每一个人都知道自己迟早会死
[00:07:33.240 --> 00:07:35.640] 但是大家都不知道什么时候死
[00:07:35.640 --> 00:07:38.740] 怎么死人生才有乐趣
[00:07:38.740 --> 00:07:41.040] 如果你事先就知道你哪天哪夜会死
[00:07:41.040 --> 00:07:41.740] 而且怎么死
[00:07:41.740 --> 00:07:43.440] 实在难不得知道那有什么乐趣
[00:07:43.440 --> 00:07:46.780] 完全没有乐趣
[00:07:46.780 --> 00:07:48.760] 我们今天一直强调知的权利
[00:07:48.760 --> 00:07:51.160] 我要知道我要知道其实是不对的
[00:07:51.160 --> 00:07:53.660] 没有必要
[00:07:53.660 --> 00:07:56.720] 留下一些不知道的东西
[00:07:56.720 --> 00:07:59.560] 留下一些想象的空间
[00:07:59.560 --> 00:08:02.360] 人生更有乐趣
[00:08:02.360 --> 00:08:03.960] 你急什么
[00:08:03.960 --> 00:08:06.000] 生下来才知道就好了
[00:08:06.000 --> 00:08:07.800] 可是你去看
[00:08:07.800 --> 00:08:09.700] 太太在产房里面
[00:08:09.700 --> 00:08:10.500] 小孩一生出来
[00:08:10.500 --> 00:08:12.400] 哇哭起来以后
[00:08:12.400 --> 00:08:13.840] 做爸爸敢不敢问
[00:08:13.840 --> 00:08:14.640] 是男的是女的
[00:08:14.640 --> 00:08:16.980] 敢不敢这样问不敢
[00:08:16.980 --> 00:08:19.580] 你这样问你以后很难做人
[00:08:19.580 --> 00:08:22.880] 因为很多爸爸就犯这个错
[00:08:22.880 --> 00:08:23.860] 一听到小孩生出来
[00:08:23.860 --> 00:08:25.820] 赶快是男的是女的
[00:08:25.820 --> 00:08:28.020] 然后事后给人家传得很难听
[00:08:28.020 --> 00:08:29.160] 重男轻女
[00:08:29.160 --> 00:08:29.860] 男的又怎么样
[00:08:29.860 --> 00:08:31.720] 女的又怎么样
[00:08:31.720 --> 00:08:33.400] 中国人比较聪明
[00:08:33.400 --> 00:08:34.760] 小孩一生下来赶快问
[00:08:34.760 --> 00:08:36.560] 几点几分真的不要紧
[00:08:36.560 --> 00:08:38.440] 赶快记下来几点几分
[00:08:38.440 --> 00:08:40.500] 男的女的抱过来就知道了
[00:08:40.500 --> 00:08:43.180] 你能问吗
[00:08:43.180 --> 00:08:45.840] 很多人就犯这个错
[00:08:45.840 --> 00:08:48.180] 不必问嘛
[00:08:48.180 --> 00:08:51.640] 所以有时候不要有知的权利
[00:08:51.640 --> 00:08:53.520] 有时候有些隐瞒
[00:08:53.520 --> 00:08:57.480] 这个人生是更有趣的
[00:08:57.480 --> 00:09:00.320] 你看我们血缘关系
[00:09:00.320 --> 00:09:01.480] 重男轻女
[00:09:01.480 --> 00:09:03.860] 那叫利害关系
[00:09:03.860 --> 00:09:05.160] 那不是血缘关系
[00:09:05.160 --> 00:09:07.320] 那就走样了
[00:09:07.320 --> 00:09:10.400] 完全扭曲掉了
[00:09:10.400 --> 00:09:12.400] 我们古代的圣贤
[00:09:12.400 --> 00:09:15.640] 绝对不主张利害关系
[00:09:15.640 --> 00:09:19.780] 因为儒家是最反对利害关系
[00:09:19.780 --> 00:09:21.800] 他一直讲我们是什么
[00:09:21.800 --> 00:09:23.520] 我们是有理想
[00:09:23.520 --> 00:09:25.520] 我们有道德
[00:09:25.520 --> 00:09:27.180] 我们讲伦理
[00:09:27.180 --> 00:09:30.220] 我们讲和谐
[00:09:30.220 --> 00:09:34.820] 可见我们是误解了孔子的想法
[00:09:34.820 --> 00:09:37.720] 我想孔子不可能重男轻女
[00:09:37.720 --> 00:09:40.360] 所以凡是重男轻女的
[00:09:40.360 --> 00:09:44.360] 我们都把它叫做利害关系
[00:09:44.360 --> 00:09:46.160] 凡是讲朋友的
[00:09:46.160 --> 00:09:49.440] 我们都把它归纳情感关系
[00:09:49.440 --> 00:09:52.340] 一个人感情用事也是不好的
[00:09:52.340 --> 00:09:55.180] 一个人讲利害也是不好
[00:09:55.180 --> 00:09:57.780] 所以我们这个系列
[00:09:57.780 --> 00:10:00.040] 一直提倡
[00:10:00.040 --> 00:10:01.380] 什么叫亲子关系
[00:10:01.380 --> 00:10:04.480] 就是教养关系
[00:10:04.480 --> 00:10:06.480] 我们对生而不养
[00:10:06.480 --> 00:10:08.960] 我们是觉得这个很不对
[00:10:08.960 --> 00:10:10.420] 我们觉得养而不教
[00:10:10.420 --> 00:10:12.060] 那就更糟糕
[00:10:12.060 --> 00:10:15.320] 你看很多小孩一生出来就常非
[00:10:15.320 --> 00:10:19.100] 母亲无怨无悔照顾他
[00:10:19.100 --> 00:10:22.900] 如果利害关系丢掉就好像累赘
[00:10:22.900 --> 00:10:24.340] 养他一辈子还得了
[00:10:24.340 --> 00:10:27.400] 没有 照顾他
[00:10:27.400 --> 00:10:29.700] 这才了不起
[00:10:29.700 --> 00:10:31.580] 一生小孩就看一看
[00:10:31.580 --> 00:10:33.280] 这个将来有没有出息
[00:10:33.280 --> 00:10:34.780] 找人来算命
[00:10:34.780 --> 00:10:35.780] 他将来会做大官
[00:10:35.780 --> 00:10:36.880] 留下来 不能做大官
[00:10:36.880 --> 00:10:38.280] 丢掉
[00:10:38.280 --> 00:10:43.420] 那像人吗
[00:10:43.420 --> 00:10:46.420] 我们慢慢的感觉到
[00:10:46.420 --> 00:10:49.820] 你生他 你就要养他
[00:10:49.820 --> 00:10:53.060] 但现在知识越来越普及以后
[00:10:53.060 --> 00:10:56.200] 我们越来越多人生而不养
[00:10:56.200 --> 00:10:57.340] 那叫做弃婴
[00:10:57.340 --> 00:10:59.640] 那就叫做弃婴
[00:10:59.640 --> 00:11:00.940] 堕胎是一种
[00:11:00.940 --> 00:11:03.040] 没有生就把他干掉
[00:11:03.040 --> 00:11:06.680] 生下来丢掉叫弃婴
[00:11:06.680 --> 00:11:10.580] 然后收下来让他自生自灭
[00:11:10.580 --> 00:11:13.020] 更残忍
[00:11:13.020 --> 00:11:16.160] 这样算人类吗
[00:11:16.160 --> 00:11:19.020] 所以亲子关系它是很神圣的
[00:11:19.020 --> 00:11:22.260] 不要掉以轻心
[00:11:22.260 --> 00:11:25.600] 我们既然有本事把人家生下来
[00:11:25.600 --> 00:11:28.840] 我们就要负责养他
[00:11:28.840 --> 00:11:31.640] 但是养不是说要给他过很好的日子
[00:11:31.640 --> 00:11:34.000] 不是
[00:11:34.000 --> 00:11:35.700] 不见得家庭富有的人
[00:11:35.700 --> 00:11:38.480] 他子女就会成才
[00:11:38.480 --> 00:11:40.440] 往往家里很贫穷的
[00:11:40.440 --> 00:11:44.120] 将来都出很了不起的人物
[00:11:44.120 --> 00:11:45.620] 世界上真正的伟人
[00:11:45.620 --> 00:11:49.960] 大部分都是出生于贫寒的家庭
[00:11:49.960 --> 00:11:52.020] 而且世界上大部分的伟人
[00:11:52.020 --> 00:11:55.660] 都不是在都市里面诞生长大
[00:11:55.660 --> 00:11:58.000] 因为都市的小孩很闭塞
[00:11:58.000 --> 00:11:59.960] 什么都不懂
[00:11:59.960 --> 00:12:01.500] 只懂电动玩具
[00:12:01.500 --> 00:12:03.840] 什么都不懂
[00:12:03.840 --> 00:12:06.100] 他天天接受那个电视
[00:12:06.100 --> 00:12:09.180] 他就没有思考空间
[00:12:09.180 --> 00:12:10.540] 我们以前没有电视
[00:12:10.540 --> 00:12:12.880] 我们很会想事情
[00:12:12.880 --> 00:12:13.840] 现在有个电视
[00:12:13.840 --> 00:12:15.240] 他什么答案都给你以后
[00:12:15.240 --> 00:12:16.620] 你全盘接受
[00:12:16.620 --> 00:12:18.020] 自己完全不动脑筋
[00:12:18.020 --> 00:12:20.180] 没有创造力
[00:12:20.180 --> 00:12:21.160] 所以很多人跟我讲
[00:12:21.160 --> 00:12:23.060] 现在小孩很幸福
[00:12:23.060 --> 00:12:24.060] 懂得很多
[00:12:24.060 --> 00:12:27.000] 我是完全不能接受
[00:12:27.000 --> 00:12:28.020] 现在小孩懂什么
[00:12:28.020 --> 00:12:30.900] 他就懂人家讲的那套老套
[00:12:30.900 --> 00:12:34.640] 那不一定对的东西
[00:12:34.640 --> 00:12:38.740] 专家讲的话不一定对
[00:12:38.740 --> 00:12:40.580] 你看大家都相信这两个字
[00:12:40.580 --> 00:12:43.340] 你就很惨
[00:12:43.340 --> 00:12:44.880] 他会告诉你
[00:12:44.880 --> 00:12:48.420] 两代之间有代沟
[00:12:48.420 --> 00:12:50.020] 有代沟
[00:12:50.020 --> 00:12:54.620] 我们家完全没有代沟
[00:12:54.620 --> 00:13:01.320] 我跟我爸爸什么话都可以说
[00:13:01.320 --> 00:13:04.320] 我儿子跟我什么话都可以说
[00:13:04.320 --> 00:13:05.400] 将来我孙子跟我
[00:13:05.400 --> 00:13:06.960] 也什么话都可以说
[00:13:06.960 --> 00:13:09.400] 有什么代沟
[00:13:09.400 --> 00:13:11.140] 你接受了他的观念
[00:13:11.140 --> 00:13:12.340] 你就承认有代沟
[00:13:12.340 --> 00:13:16.000] 你就有代沟
[00:13:16.000 --> 00:13:17.100] 像我也知道代沟
[00:13:17.100 --> 00:13:18.100] 因为我读教育的
[00:13:18.100 --> 00:13:20.480] 我怎么知道有代沟
[00:13:20.480 --> 00:13:22.480] 我们家就没有代沟
[00:13:22.480 --> 00:13:25.620] 不可能有代沟
[00:13:25.620 --> 00:13:26.520] 我再说一下
[00:13:26.520 --> 00:13:29.020] 我们现在说忧郁症很厉害
[00:13:29.020 --> 00:13:30.220] 忧郁症很严重
[00:13:30.220 --> 00:13:31.720] 忧郁症是脏死亡原因
[00:13:31.720 --> 00:13:35.520] 我通通不相信
[00:13:35.520 --> 00:13:36.820] 你要相信你就惨了
[00:13:36.820 --> 00:13:38.200] 你就得忧郁症了
[00:13:38.200 --> 00:13:39.860] 我问你
[00:13:39.860 --> 00:13:42.460] 谁人无忧
[00:13:42.460 --> 00:13:44.400] 只要你有一口气在
[00:13:44.400 --> 00:13:47.540] 你就有忧
[00:13:47.540 --> 00:13:52.180] 人如静悠必有远利
[00:13:52.180 --> 00:13:54.980] 人无静虑必有远忧
[00:13:54.980 --> 00:13:58.380] 看你怎么讲都可以
[00:13:58.380 --> 00:14:00.780] 你总有一些烦恼的地方
[00:14:00.780 --> 00:14:02.380] 谁人没有忧
[00:14:02.380 --> 00:14:04.380] 谁人没有利
[00:14:04.380 --> 00:14:07.320] 那为什么这是个症状
[00:14:07.320 --> 00:14:08.420] 可是当你接受以后
[00:14:08.420 --> 00:14:11.100] 它就果然变个症状
[00:14:11.100 --> 00:14:13.160] 你就很惨了
[00:14:13.160 --> 00:14:15.260] 我常常警告这些专家学者
[00:14:15.260 --> 00:14:17.140] 就说天下本无事
[00:14:17.140 --> 00:14:21.580] 都是你们在这里制造问题
[00:14:21.580 --> 00:14:23.300] 要特别小心
[00:14:23.300 --> 00:14:24.980] 老实讲他们是做研究用的
[00:14:24.980 --> 00:14:26.540] 不是拿来公诸于世
[00:14:26.540 --> 00:14:28.440] 去赚钱骗人害人
[00:14:28.440 --> 00:14:31.280] 但是他们搞错了
[00:14:31.280 --> 00:14:32.180] 像我们
[00:14:32.180 --> 00:14:35.280] 我们该讲的话才会在这里讲
[00:14:35.280 --> 00:14:36.180] 我们不该讲的话
[00:14:36.180 --> 00:14:38.480] 在这里我们绝不讲
[00:14:38.480 --> 00:14:40.020] 这个叫做职业伦理
[00:14:40.020 --> 00:14:41.820] 这个叫做职业伦理
[00:14:41.820 --> 00:14:44.060] 职业道德
[00:14:44.060 --> 00:14:46.560] 我们只可以讲应该讲的
[00:14:46.560 --> 00:14:49.360] 不能讲我喜欢讲的
[00:14:49.360 --> 00:14:51.140] 但现在很多人都在抓住机会
[00:14:51.140 --> 00:14:55.140] 就猛讲自己喜欢讲的
[00:14:55.140 --> 00:14:58.440] 那个是害人害己
[00:14:58.440 --> 00:15:06.480] 各位
[00:15:06.480 --> 00:15:08.080] 我们没有代沟
[00:15:08.080 --> 00:15:10.260] 不要相信那一套
[00:15:10.260 --> 00:15:11.720] 只要你家里没有代沟
[00:15:11.720 --> 00:15:13.260] 代沟就是个名词
[00:15:13.260 --> 00:15:15.300] 不是实际的东西
[00:15:15.300 --> 00:15:16.720] 只要你接受了
[00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:18.360] 你从心里头认定有代沟
[00:15:18.360 --> 00:15:22.960] 你们家两代之间无法沟通
[00:15:22.960 --> 00:15:25.460] 那算什么父母
[00:15:25.460 --> 00:15:26.800] 我儿子现在美国
[00:15:26.800 --> 00:15:31.100] 他已经是大学的副教授
[00:15:31.100 --> 00:15:33.880] 他的论文在美国很受欢迎
[00:15:33.880 --> 00:15:36.880] 但是他有什么事情打电话问我
[00:15:36.880 --> 00:15:38.640] 有什么代沟
[00:15:38.640 --> 00:15:40.940] 不可能有代沟
[00:15:40.940 --> 00:15:46.420] 孔子他是特别重视教养关系
[00:15:46.420 --> 00:15:53.160] 因为他觉得做人要有一套道理
[00:15:53.160 --> 00:15:56.060] 你看朋友是讲什么的
[00:15:56.060 --> 00:16:01.640] 你想想朋友相处讲诚信
[00:16:01.640 --> 00:16:06.440] 那我们亲子也讲诚信吗
[00:16:06.440 --> 00:16:08.640] 妈妈告诉小孩子
[00:16:08.640 --> 00:16:10.240] 你再不乖
[00:16:10.240 --> 00:16:11.740] 你再不乖看看
[00:16:11.740 --> 00:16:14.680] 大野狼就把你叼去了
[00:16:14.680 --> 00:16:17.520] 难道这种话也不能讲吗
[00:16:17.520 --> 00:16:19.520] 那不然你怎么办
[00:16:19.520 --> 00:16:20.620] 小孩就是哭啊
[00:16:20.620 --> 00:16:23.620] 躺在地上就不听话了
[00:16:23.620 --> 00:16:24.420] 你一定有办法没有
[00:16:24.420 --> 00:16:25.360] 你报警察吗
[00:16:25.360 --> 00:16:28.200] 警察也不理你
[00:16:28.200 --> 00:16:29.400] 你打电话找谁
[00:16:29.400 --> 00:16:31.660] 人家都不理你
[00:16:31.660 --> 00:16:32.400] 你告他
[00:16:32.400 --> 00:16:33.700] 你再不乖
[00:16:33.700 --> 00:16:35.140] 大野狼把你叼走了
[00:16:35.140 --> 00:16:36.300] 妈妈也救不了你
[00:16:36.300 --> 00:16:38.900] 小孩就静下来就好了
[00:16:38.900 --> 00:16:41.480] 但是这是不诚信嘛
[00:16:41.480 --> 00:16:45.140] 你骗人啊
[00:16:45.140 --> 00:16:46.880] 那如果连这一招都不行的话
[00:16:46.880 --> 00:16:50.220] 那你怎么当妈妈
[00:16:50.220 --> 00:16:53.420] 但是很多专家是不赞成这样
[00:16:53.420 --> 00:16:55.060] 叫我养成什么养成什么
[00:16:55.060 --> 00:16:58.360] 我觉得很奇怪
[00:16:58.360 --> 00:17:01.700] 一个人从来没有经过这些
[00:17:01.700 --> 00:17:02.760] 是是非非
[00:17:02.760 --> 00:17:08.840] 他是一辈子长不大的
[00:17:08.840 --> 00:17:10.880] 你把他封闭起来
[00:17:10.880 --> 00:17:12.700] 把他保护的好好的
[00:17:12.700 --> 00:17:14.680] 任何事情都不让他知道
[00:17:14.680 --> 00:17:18.480] 他将来变白痴一个
[00:17:18.480 --> 00:17:20.280] 你会发现很多人他有博士学位
[00:17:20.280 --> 00:17:22.820] 但是他完全是白痴
[00:17:22.820 --> 00:17:24.080] 他只是教课本的东西
[00:17:24.080 --> 00:17:27.260] 其他他应该不懂
[00:17:27.260 --> 00:17:29.620] 那教这样的人有什么用
[00:17:29.620 --> 00:17:34.220] 你培养出这样的人有什么用
[00:17:34.220 --> 00:17:35.300] 一个人要知道好的
[00:17:35.300 --> 00:17:36.700] 也要知道坏的
[00:17:36.700 --> 00:17:39.460] 要知道善的也要知道恶的
[00:17:39.460 --> 00:17:40.600] 要知道好的一面
[00:17:40.600 --> 00:17:43.200] 也要知道坏的一面
[00:17:43.200 --> 00:17:47.640] 这才一个比较完整的人
[00:17:47.640 --> 00:17:48.740] 保护起来
[00:17:48.740 --> 00:17:50.780] 这个不行那个不行
[00:17:50.780 --> 00:17:53.580] 那就完了
[00:17:53.580 --> 00:17:57.060] 人类是要经过尝试的
[00:17:57.060 --> 00:17:59.560] 但是要安全
[00:17:59.560 --> 00:18:01.220] 只要在安全的范围之内
[00:18:01.220 --> 00:18:03.520] 尽量让小孩去尝试
[00:18:03.520 --> 00:18:05.700] 不要禁止他
[00:18:05.700 --> 00:18:07.700] 但是你不能规定他要做什么
[00:18:07.700 --> 00:18:09.000] 不可以
[00:18:09.000 --> 00:18:13.300] 我们慢慢还是要把这些说清楚
[00:18:13.300 --> 00:18:15.400] 我们家里面
[00:18:15.400 --> 00:18:18.300] 我们不是重视权利义务
[00:18:18.300 --> 00:18:28.520] 我们重视一种很特别的东西
[00:18:28.520 --> 00:18:31.220] 叫成全
[00:18:31.220 --> 00:18:32.520] 我不晓得大家对成全
[00:18:32.520 --> 00:18:35.720] 这两个字有什么感想
[00:18:35.720 --> 00:18:37.800] 你看我们以前
[00:18:37.800 --> 00:18:39.300] 让儿子去读书
[00:18:39.300 --> 00:18:40.860] 让女儿留在家不读书
[00:18:40.860 --> 00:18:42.900] 我们就说重男轻女
[00:18:42.900 --> 00:18:45.540] 那跟重男轻女什么关系
[00:18:45.540 --> 00:18:47.440] 我们中国人是兄弟姐妹当中
[00:18:47.440 --> 00:18:49.500] 来看一看哪个比较适合读书的
[00:18:49.500 --> 00:18:51.140] 就让他去读书
[00:18:51.140 --> 00:18:53.680] 哪个比较适合学工艺的
[00:18:53.680 --> 00:18:55.340] 就让他去当徒弟
[00:18:55.340 --> 00:18:57.140] 哪个比较适合种田的
[00:18:57.140 --> 00:18:59.040] 就让他去耕种
[00:18:59.040 --> 00:19:01.880] 这有什么不对
[00:19:01.880 --> 00:19:03.220] 全家人读书
[00:19:03.220 --> 00:19:04.880] 没有一个读得好
[00:19:04.900 --> 00:19:08.640] 因为我们经济有限
[00:19:08.640 --> 00:19:11.000] 每一个人都去平均供应
[00:19:11.000 --> 00:19:14.040] 大家都不行
[00:19:14.040 --> 00:19:16.040] 倒不如你比较会读书
[00:19:16.040 --> 00:19:17.880] 你就代表我们全家去读
[00:19:17.880 --> 00:19:20.420] 我们所有的人都成全你
[00:19:20.420 --> 00:19:21.620] 你好好读
[00:19:21.620 --> 00:19:24.220] 所以为什么一个人一成名一赚钱
[00:19:24.220 --> 00:19:26.160] 就要回馈兄弟姐妹
[00:19:26.160 --> 00:19:27.620] 这外国人每次都问我
[00:19:27.620 --> 00:19:29.700] 他搞不懂
[00:19:29.700 --> 00:19:30.920] 哥哥赚钱有办法
[00:19:30.920 --> 00:19:32.360] 为什么要照顾弟弟妹妹
[00:19:32.360 --> 00:19:33.860] 那干了什么事
[00:19:33.860 --> 00:19:35.000] 就是我们弟弟妹妹
[00:19:35.000 --> 00:19:37.300] 统统成全这个哥哥
[00:19:37.300 --> 00:19:39.140] 把所有心力都做给他
[00:19:39.140 --> 00:19:42.900] 他起来你就回来照顾我
[00:19:42.900 --> 00:19:44.940] 这本来就应该这样
[00:19:44.940 --> 00:19:47.320] 因为我们不是个人主义
[00:19:47.320 --> 00:19:49.340] 不是单打独斗的
[00:19:49.340 --> 00:19:52.980] 我们是整个家庭在奋斗
[00:19:52.980 --> 00:19:54.260] 我当哥哥的
[00:19:54.260 --> 00:19:55.580] 我读书比较不行
[00:19:55.580 --> 00:19:56.380] 我就不读了
[00:19:56.380 --> 00:19:57.460] 弟弟你有办法
[00:19:57.460 --> 00:19:58.420] 全力让你去读
[00:19:58.420 --> 00:19:59.500] 我提前去做工
[00:19:59.500 --> 00:20:02.160] 我赚钱帮助你去读
[00:20:02.160 --> 00:20:05.400] 你这样才能把一个人造就出来
[00:20:05.400 --> 00:20:08.360] 这个成全是非常了不起的事情
[00:20:08.360 --> 00:20:09.700] 那我们今天把它当作什么
[00:20:09.700 --> 00:20:11.840] 把它当作剥削这个人
[00:20:11.840 --> 00:20:13.440] 然后去帮助那个人
[00:20:13.440 --> 00:20:16.140] 是示利眼不公平
[00:20:16.140 --> 00:20:18.340] 这不糟糕了
[00:20:18.340 --> 00:20:19.180] 你看我们现在
[00:20:19.180 --> 00:20:20.740] 为什么很多人会离婚
[00:20:20.740 --> 00:20:23.180] 台湾有一个案例最妙
[00:20:23.180 --> 00:20:25.480] 那个两个人都是博士学位的
[00:20:25.480 --> 00:20:25.980] 就离婚了
[00:20:25.980 --> 00:20:28.260] 就为了喜欢离婚
[00:20:28.260 --> 00:20:30.560] 他们两个谁也不喜欢
[00:20:30.560 --> 00:20:33.060] 我是博士我还洗碗
[00:20:33.060 --> 00:20:34.820] 那你是博士我就不是
[00:20:34.820 --> 00:20:36.360] 你不洗我也不洗
[00:20:36.360 --> 00:20:37.200] 那怎么办
[00:20:37.200 --> 00:20:38.760] 就开始像西方一样
[00:20:38.760 --> 00:20:39.700] 全力义务
[00:20:39.700 --> 00:20:41.000] 钱可同
[00:20:41.000 --> 00:20:42.640] 一个人洗一餐
[00:20:42.640 --> 00:20:45.040] 谁都不要跑
[00:20:45.040 --> 00:20:45.980] 对不对
[00:20:45.980 --> 00:20:47.280] 那更好了
[00:20:47.280 --> 00:20:48.140] 轮到先生的时候
[00:20:48.140 --> 00:20:50.240] 先生就乖乖的洗
[00:20:50.240 --> 00:20:50.980] 那轮到太太
[00:20:50.980 --> 00:20:52.480] 那太太更厉害
[00:20:52.480 --> 00:20:53.140] 吃完以后
[00:20:53.140 --> 00:20:53.820] 这个是你的
[00:20:53.820 --> 00:20:54.480] 记清楚
[00:20:54.480 --> 00:20:55.740] 这种颜色是你的
[00:20:55.740 --> 00:20:57.820] 然后两个都放冰箱
[00:20:57.820 --> 00:21:00.260] 放冰箱没有细菌
[00:21:00.260 --> 00:21:03.460] 晚餐再拿出来吗
[00:21:03.460 --> 00:21:04.560] 先生很气啊
[00:21:04.560 --> 00:21:05.520] 轮到我就洗
[00:21:05.520 --> 00:21:07.000] 轮到你就放冰箱
[00:21:07.000 --> 00:21:07.560] 离婚
[00:21:07.560 --> 00:21:10.460] 离婚就离婚了
[00:21:10.460 --> 00:21:13.060] 那就算什么人生
[00:21:13.060 --> 00:21:14.360] 所以现在有很多年轻人
[00:21:14.360 --> 00:21:16.300] 就跑来问我
[00:21:16.300 --> 00:21:19.080] 我们家洗碗的问题很严重
[00:21:19.080 --> 00:21:20.440] 到底怎么洗法
[00:21:20.440 --> 00:21:21.600] 我说很简单
[00:21:21.600 --> 00:21:22.640] 非常简单
[00:21:22.640 --> 00:21:24.920] 你们两个自己衡量一下
[00:21:24.920 --> 00:21:26.420] 如果两个都没有出席
[00:21:26.420 --> 00:21:27.540] 两个通通都没有出席
[00:21:27.540 --> 00:21:29.680] 一个人洗一餐
[00:21:29.680 --> 00:21:31.280] 如果先生比例要出席
[00:21:31.280 --> 00:21:32.520] 太太洗碗
[00:21:32.520 --> 00:21:33.860] 如果太太比例要出席
[00:21:33.860 --> 00:21:36.160] 先生洗碗
[00:21:36.160 --> 00:21:39.020] 你总要把精力弄到一个人上去
[00:21:39.020 --> 00:21:40.960] 他才有办法
[00:21:40.960 --> 00:21:42.360] 你偷垮两个人
[00:21:42.360 --> 00:21:45.440] 就是都没有出席
[00:21:45.440 --> 00:21:47.200] 这才叫做伦理
[00:21:47.200 --> 00:21:50.200] 不知道什么叫伦理
[00:21:50.200 --> 00:21:51.140] 你长得高的
[00:21:51.140 --> 00:21:52.580] 天花板你负责
[00:21:52.580 --> 00:21:53.300] 我长得矮的
[00:21:53.300 --> 00:21:54.880] 地板我负责
[00:21:54.880 --> 00:21:57.040] 这本来就这样子
[00:21:57.040 --> 00:21:58.280] 你非要一个人搞一半
[00:21:58.280 --> 00:22:00.140] 那我死定了
[00:22:00.140 --> 00:22:02.680] 我怎么过也过不着
[00:22:02.680 --> 00:22:03.880] 那就是假的平等
[00:22:03.880 --> 00:22:07.360] 那不是真的平等
[00:22:07.360 --> 00:22:09.760] 权权就是我们家里
[00:22:09.760 --> 00:22:11.760] 哪一个比较行
[00:22:11.760 --> 00:22:13.860] 我们全力支持他
[00:22:13.860 --> 00:22:17.060] 最起码他可以上进一点
[00:22:17.060 --> 00:22:20.100] 这是非常好的一个构想
[00:22:20.100 --> 00:22:24.500] 但是被人家解释成重男轻女
[00:22:24.500 --> 00:22:25.740] 我很坦白讲
[00:22:25.740 --> 00:22:28.280] 我观察三十年
[00:22:28.280 --> 00:22:34.140] 全世界最重视女权的是咱们中华民族
[00:22:34.140 --> 00:22:35.480] 你看我们过母亲节
[00:22:35.480 --> 00:22:36.620] 永远过得很慎重
[00:22:36.620 --> 00:22:39.420] 过爸爸节都是马马虎虎的
[00:22:39.420 --> 00:22:42.120] 都是马马虎虎
[00:22:42.120 --> 00:22:44.120] 我们永远是母亲最伟大
[00:22:44.120 --> 00:22:47.020] 永远是怀念母爱
[00:22:47.020 --> 00:22:49.300] 我们就是说黄河是我们的母亲
[00:22:49.300 --> 00:22:52.040] 从来没有说黄河是我们的父亲
[00:22:52.040 --> 00:22:53.600] 当时在外国很多人跟我讲
[00:22:53.600 --> 00:22:56.400] 你看你都没有跟你太太拿过椅子
[00:22:56.400 --> 00:22:58.840] 跟你太太穿衣服
[00:22:58.840 --> 00:23:00.440] 我说我如果讨一个太太
[00:23:00.440 --> 00:23:02.140] 讨到连自己椅子都拿不动
[00:23:02.140 --> 00:23:03.980] 我也算了
[00:23:03.980 --> 00:23:06.380] 他自己拿嘛
[00:23:06.380 --> 00:23:08.880] 我们重的是关心他
[00:23:08.880 --> 00:23:11.280] 重的是替他设想
[00:23:11.280 --> 00:23:13.720] 而不是说替他做行事
[00:23:13.720 --> 00:23:15.620] 拿衣服拿椅子
[00:23:15.620 --> 00:23:18.600] 那做给谁看呢
[00:23:18.600 --> 00:23:20.400] 西方人比较重形式
[00:23:20.400 --> 00:23:22.160] 比较重外表
[00:23:22.160 --> 00:23:23.700] 中国人重实际
[00:23:23.700 --> 00:23:26.460] 我们重内心
[00:23:26.460 --> 00:23:30.000] 我也希望各位要去分别一下子
[00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:33.440] 我们疼小孩不能说出来
[00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:37.580] 西方人疼小孩一定说出来
[00:23:37.580 --> 00:23:38.680] 这是文化不同
[00:23:38.680 --> 00:23:43.780] 但是我们比较了解价值是什么
[00:23:43.780 --> 00:23:46.160] 不是中国人不敢讲
[00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:48.920] 而是中国人知道不讲比较好
[00:23:48.920 --> 00:23:50.900] 我举个例子
[00:23:50.900 --> 00:23:54.460] 你看我们每年到了母亲节的时候
[00:23:54.460 --> 00:23:55.460] 小孩一定会问
[00:23:55.460 --> 00:23:58.440] 妈妈母亲节快到了
[00:23:58.440 --> 00:24:00.240] 我送你什么礼物
[00:24:00.240 --> 00:24:02.340] 我还没有发现有个妈妈告诉小孩
[00:24:02.340 --> 00:24:04.280] 你要送什么
[00:24:04.280 --> 00:24:07.480] 都说不要乖就好了
[00:24:07.480 --> 00:24:09.720] 那小孩就真的没有送
[00:24:09.720 --> 00:24:10.580] 然后过了母亲节
[00:24:10.580 --> 00:24:13.320] 妈妈脸就臭起来
[00:24:13.320 --> 00:24:16.280] 我说不要就没有送
[00:24:16.280 --> 00:24:18.120] 那你问干什么
[00:24:18.120 --> 00:24:20.720] 这才是中国人
[00:24:20.720 --> 00:24:21.680] 我问很多妈妈
[00:24:21.680 --> 00:24:23.360] 我说你就干脆告诉你儿子
[00:24:23.360 --> 00:24:25.000] 你要什么就好了
[00:24:25.000 --> 00:24:28.260] 拆来拆去多累
[00:24:28.260 --> 00:24:29.860] 妈妈说真的要我讲是不是
[00:24:29.860 --> 00:24:30.700] 那我儿子就惨了
[00:24:30.700 --> 00:24:32.560] 我跟你讲
[00:24:32.560 --> 00:24:34.340] 明年母亲节他敢问我
[00:24:34.340 --> 00:24:36.900] 妈妈母亲节快到了
[00:24:36.900 --> 00:24:38.680] 我送你什么
[00:24:38.680 --> 00:24:40.000] 我就告诉他
[00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:42.140] 妈妈想自己搬出去住
[00:24:42.140 --> 00:24:43.920] 你跟我买一套房子
[00:24:43.920 --> 00:24:45.140] 送我一套房子
[00:24:45.140 --> 00:24:46.320] 他惨了
[00:24:46.320 --> 00:24:51.320] 做不到只会乱开口
[00:24:51.320 --> 00:24:53.320] 我说那你叫你儿子怎么办
[00:24:53.320 --> 00:24:55.860] 他说他自己会想啊
[00:24:55.860 --> 00:24:58.060] 我需要什么他最知道啊
[00:24:58.060 --> 00:25:02.060] 他不知道专算
[00:25:02.060 --> 00:25:03.940] 这才是中国人
[00:25:03.940 --> 00:25:06.280] 你有诚意你自然知道
[00:25:06.280 --> 00:25:08.640] 你没有诚意问你是假的
[00:25:08.640 --> 00:25:09.780] 白问
[00:25:09.780 --> 00:25:11.840] 我们不像西方
[00:25:11.840 --> 00:25:13.240] 你看西方人家送你礼物
[00:25:13.240 --> 00:25:14.780] 你会当上面打开来
[00:25:14.780 --> 00:25:16.780] 好高兴我很喜欢这个
[00:25:16.780 --> 00:25:18.180] 谁是这样
[00:25:18.180 --> 00:25:21.980] 中国人谁是这样
[00:25:21.980 --> 00:25:23.120] 中国人要送东西来
[00:25:23.120 --> 00:25:24.420] 不要不要不要客气
[00:25:24.420 --> 00:25:25.520] 不要客气
[00:25:25.520 --> 00:25:26.060] 客人走了
[00:25:26.060 --> 00:25:28.720] 赶快打开来看里面是什么
[00:25:28.720 --> 00:25:34.600] 他两种文化不同
[00:25:34.600 --> 00:25:36.960] 哪里可以盲目学习
[00:25:36.960 --> 00:25:38.380] 你学到最后变成是不是这样
[00:25:38.380 --> 00:25:40.780] 整个乱套了
[00:25:40.780 --> 00:25:45.420] 我们现在社会就是乱套了
[00:25:45.420 --> 00:25:48.280] 西方有西方的生态环境
[00:25:48.280 --> 00:25:50.420] 有他的文化背景
[00:25:50.420 --> 00:25:53.760] 他要怎么做是他家的事
[00:25:53.760 --> 00:25:55.620] 我们规规矩矩
[00:25:55.620 --> 00:25:57.660] 既然是一个中国人
[00:25:57.660 --> 00:25:59.700] 我们要讲品德修养
[00:25:59.700 --> 00:26:01.840] 我们要凭良心
[00:26:01.840 --> 00:26:04.800] 我们爱是实际的行动
[00:26:04.800 --> 00:26:07.640] 而不是嘴巴讲
[00:26:07.640 --> 00:26:12.340] 挂在嘴巴上的都非常不可靠
[00:26:12.340 --> 00:26:13.680] 我们亲子关系
[00:26:13.680 --> 00:26:15.220] 不要再讲以前的
[00:26:15.220 --> 00:26:17.780] 纯粹的血缘的利害关系
[00:26:17.780 --> 00:26:19.620] 那是不可以的
[00:26:19.620 --> 00:26:21.220] 我们教养
[00:26:21.220 --> 00:26:23.160] 我们很难得有个小孩
[00:26:23.160 --> 00:26:25.820] 好好把他教养成人
[00:26:25.820 --> 00:26:28.720] 我们对社会有一份贡献
[00:26:28.720 --> 00:26:30.600] 我们对我们的民族
[00:26:30.600 --> 00:26:33.800] 出了一份的心力
[00:26:33.800 --> 00:26:35.900] 只要一代比一代好
[00:26:35.900 --> 00:26:37.840] 中国人一定强
[00:26:37.840 --> 00:26:39.240] 一代不如一代
[00:26:39.240 --> 00:26:41.440] 我们就完了
[00:26:41.440 --> 00:26:43.680] 可是我们现在
[00:26:43.680 --> 00:26:46.140] 我们的小孩是不是会比我们好
[00:26:46.140 --> 00:26:47.880] 我看不见得
[00:26:47.880 --> 00:26:49.220] 不见得
[00:26:49.220 --> 00:26:51.180] 很危险
[00:26:51.180 --> 00:26:53.920] 因为我们很多观念是错的
[00:26:53.920 --> 00:26:55.120] 以为说我只要给他钱
[00:26:55.120 --> 00:26:55.980] 我就是爱他
[00:26:55.980 --> 00:26:57.460] 那就糟糕
[00:26:57.460 --> 00:26:58.220] 我满足他
[00:26:58.220 --> 00:26:59.300] 我就是爱他
[00:26:59.300 --> 00:27:00.820] 糟糕
[00:27:00.820 --> 00:27:03.760] 他爱怎么样叫做儿童本位
[00:27:03.760 --> 00:27:05.760] 随他去就叫做
[00:27:05.760 --> 00:27:07.000] 爱的教育
[00:27:07.000 --> 00:27:09.340] 那全完了
[00:27:09.340 --> 00:27:12.000] 所以我们这次为什么
[00:27:12.000 --> 00:27:14.940] 鸣价论坛会把这个当作一个专辑
[00:27:14.940 --> 00:27:17.080] 就是感觉到我们现在社会
[00:27:17.080 --> 00:27:18.680] 真的有这个需要
[00:27:18.680 --> 00:27:19.980] 还请大家多指教
[00:27:19.980 --> 00:27:20.480] 谢谢
[00:27:21.780 --> 00:27:22.180] 谢谢
[00:27:22.180 --> 00:27:24.180] 谢谢大家
[00:27:24.180 --> 00:27:24.680] 谢谢大家
[00:27:24.680 --> 00:27:50.920] 谢谢观看
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