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[00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:10.000]  各位好

[00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:13.400]  我们如果把亲子关系

[00:00:13.400 --> 00:00:16.280]  把它大致上区分一下

[00:00:16.280 --> 00:00:19.280]  应该可以分成三种

[00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:20.780]  而这三种呢

[00:00:20.780 --> 00:00:24.440]  其实各位脑海里面都会有

[00:00:24.440 --> 00:00:26.680]  只不过我们今天再把它

[00:00:26.680 --> 00:00:30.320]  离分得更清楚一点

[00:00:30.320 --> 00:00:32.660]  各位可以看到

[00:00:32.660 --> 00:00:37.700]  亲子关系比较偏重于朋友关系的

[00:00:37.700 --> 00:00:40.300]  就是西方人

[00:00:40.300 --> 00:00:41.800]  而我们以前呢

[00:00:41.800 --> 00:00:45.840]  是比较偏重于血缘关系

[00:00:45.840 --> 00:00:48.280]  但是现在我们是希望

[00:00:48.280 --> 00:00:50.740]  偏重于教养关系

[00:00:50.740 --> 00:00:53.680]  因为这两个有很大的不同

[00:00:53.680 --> 00:00:57.480]  我们以前太偏重血缘关系

[00:00:57.480 --> 00:01:03.420]  所以慢慢就变成利害关系

[00:01:03.420 --> 00:01:06.420]  因为鸽辈要向内弯

[00:01:06.420 --> 00:01:09.760]  到最后就不讲是非

[00:01:09.760 --> 00:01:13.500]  教养关系是非讲是非不可

[00:01:13.500 --> 00:01:15.100]  一定要重视品德

[00:01:15.100 --> 00:01:17.900]  这个不一定重视品德

[00:01:17.900 --> 00:01:19.840]  只要我们家里的人

[00:01:19.840 --> 00:01:23.240]  我们都可以替他隐瞒

[00:01:23.240 --> 00:01:25.580]  有一个孔子讲的话

[00:01:25.580 --> 00:01:29.280]  是全世界都在争论的

[00:01:29.280 --> 00:01:34.120]  就是说你的爸爸去偷了人家羊

[00:01:34.120 --> 00:01:36.820]  那派搜索人来到你家的调查

[00:01:36.820 --> 00:01:38.660]  就问儿子

[00:01:38.660 --> 00:01:41.460]  你爸爸有没有偷人家羊

[00:01:41.460 --> 00:01:42.760]  我不晓得你如果是这个儿子

[00:01:42.760 --> 00:01:44.560]  你怎么办

[00:01:44.560 --> 00:01:46.360]  有人说有吗

[00:01:46.360 --> 00:01:49.300]  你会去做证人吗

[00:01:49.300 --> 00:01:50.900]  这是一种

[00:01:50.900 --> 00:01:54.040]  一种是说我爸爸不是那种人

[00:01:54.040 --> 00:01:55.840]  我爸爸不会偷人家羊

[00:01:55.840 --> 00:01:58.540]  明明知道爸爸偷人家羊

[00:01:58.540 --> 00:02:01.480]  儿子要说我爸爸不是那种人

[00:02:01.480 --> 00:02:03.240]  不可能

[00:02:03.240 --> 00:02:05.080]  这是孔子讲的话

[00:02:05.080 --> 00:02:09.780]  父为子允 子为父允

[00:02:09.780 --> 00:02:10.860]  儿子做了坏事

[00:02:10.860 --> 00:02:15.160]  爸爸要替他隐瞒

[00:02:15.160 --> 00:02:16.660]  爸爸做了坏事

[00:02:16.660 --> 00:02:19.900]  儿子不能出面举证

[00:02:19.900 --> 00:02:21.600]  那很多人就批评孔子

[00:02:21.600 --> 00:02:24.040]  根本没有法治观念

[00:02:24.040 --> 00:02:28.300]  为了亲情 为了血缘

[00:02:28.300 --> 00:02:31.380]  你破坏法律

[00:02:31.380 --> 00:02:36.280]  我觉得我们有诚信的必要

[00:02:36.280 --> 00:02:39.320]  孔子他从来没有很肯定

[00:02:39.320 --> 00:02:40.520]  讲过任何事情

[00:02:40.520 --> 00:02:42.320]  这是孔子最了不起的

[00:02:42.320 --> 00:02:45.180]  而且他永远不会被打倒的原因

[00:02:45.180 --> 00:02:46.620]  一个人讲话讲很肯定

[00:02:46.620 --> 00:02:47.520]  总有人赞成你

[00:02:47.520 --> 00:02:49.800]  总有人反对你

[00:02:49.800 --> 00:02:51.000]  孔子的态度上是

[00:02:51.000 --> 00:02:54.800]  既不赞成也不反对的

[00:02:54.800 --> 00:02:57.240]  要了解孔子的思想

[00:02:57.240 --> 00:03:05.080]  这句话是非常重要的

[00:03:05.080 --> 00:03:09.580]  孔子的基本态度是无可无不可

[00:03:09.580 --> 00:03:14.180]  既没有什么可也没有什么不可

[00:03:14.180 --> 00:03:17.160]  所以我们今天常常把孔子的话

[00:03:17.160 --> 00:03:20.660]  把它解释得很僵硬

[00:03:20.660 --> 00:03:23.660]  那就叫做偏见

[00:03:23.660 --> 00:03:25.500]  孔子当年讲这句话

[00:03:25.500 --> 00:03:28.600]  是跟人家谈话的时候谈出来的

[00:03:28.600 --> 00:03:30.100]  有一个人告诉孔子说

[00:03:30.100 --> 00:03:32.240]  我们家乡啊

[00:03:32.240 --> 00:03:34.780]  如果爸爸偷了人家羊

[00:03:34.780 --> 00:03:36.640]  儿子一定要出证

[00:03:36.640 --> 00:03:38.080]  我爸爸偷人家羊

[00:03:38.080 --> 00:03:40.380]  我们很守法

[00:03:40.380 --> 00:03:41.420]  可是孔子他说

[00:03:41.420 --> 00:03:44.680]  我们家不一定是这样

[00:03:44.680 --> 00:03:46.020]  我们爸爸偷人家羊

[00:03:46.020 --> 00:03:48.720]  儿子不作证

[00:03:48.720 --> 00:03:50.260]  儿子做了坏事

[00:03:50.260 --> 00:03:54.460]  爸爸也不去宣扬

[00:03:54.460 --> 00:03:55.900]  孔子没有意思说

[00:03:55.900 --> 00:03:57.200]  非这样不可 没有

[00:03:57.200 --> 00:03:58.560]  他说我多一种选择嘛

[00:03:58.560 --> 00:04:01.500]  我给你多一种选择

[00:04:01.500 --> 00:04:03.400]  爸爸偷人家羊

[00:04:03.400 --> 00:04:04.740]  儿子也可以作证

[00:04:04.740 --> 00:04:06.240]  也可以不作证

[00:04:06.240 --> 00:04:08.880]  都可以

[00:04:08.880 --> 00:04:11.840]  我相信孔子的原意是这样

[00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:13.180]  因为孔子基本立场

[00:04:13.180 --> 00:04:15.480]  向来是摇摆不定的

[00:04:15.480 --> 00:04:16.380]  你会发现我们中国人

[00:04:16.380 --> 00:04:17.880]  都是摇摆不定

[00:04:17.880 --> 00:04:21.020]  这摇摆不定就是脚踏两只船

[00:04:21.020 --> 00:04:23.360]  见风两面倒

[00:04:23.360 --> 00:04:25.700]  听起来都非常恶劣

[00:04:25.700 --> 00:04:28.160]  其实是很艺术

[00:04:28.160 --> 00:04:32.600]  要看你自己层次怎么样

[00:04:32.600 --> 00:04:34.100]  看情形

[00:04:34.100 --> 00:04:35.200]  有的我要作证

[00:04:35.200 --> 00:04:37.840]  有的我不要作证

[00:04:37.840 --> 00:04:39.340]  我们的关系是变动的

[00:04:39.340 --> 00:04:40.400]  是变化的

[00:04:40.400 --> 00:04:42.900]  不是固定的

[00:04:42.900 --> 00:04:45.940]  中国人道理很少是固定的

[00:04:45.940 --> 00:04:47.440]  所以你可以在这里变来变去

[00:04:47.440 --> 00:04:51.280]  我不反对 我不反对

[00:04:51.280 --> 00:04:53.520]  西方的朋友关系

[00:04:53.520 --> 00:04:56.460]  他的占的成分相当高

[00:04:56.460 --> 00:04:58.420]  事实上西方也有血缘关系

[00:04:58.420 --> 00:05:01.260]  也有 不是没有

[00:05:01.260 --> 00:05:01.960]  各位要了解

[00:05:01.960 --> 00:05:03.700]  西方也是很混杂的

[00:05:03.700 --> 00:05:07.600]  各式各样的花样都有

[00:05:07.600 --> 00:05:09.260]  你看法国人

[00:05:09.260 --> 00:05:12.600]  他是天生的不想生小孩的民族

[00:05:12.600 --> 00:05:14.740]  所以法国现在很惨

[00:05:14.740 --> 00:05:18.040]  他人口一只一只减少

[00:05:18.040 --> 00:05:20.680]  那是很严重的问题

[00:05:20.680 --> 00:05:21.680]  因为一个民族

[00:05:21.680 --> 00:05:23.940]  只要没有新生的婴儿

[00:05:23.940 --> 00:05:26.080]  这个民族就快要断掉了

[00:05:26.080 --> 00:05:27.380]  就要灭绝掉

[00:05:27.380 --> 00:05:30.720]  不需要人家打我们

[00:05:30.720 --> 00:05:31.620]  这样各位才知道

[00:05:31.620 --> 00:05:33.920]  为什么很多国家一直鼓励生育

[00:05:33.920 --> 00:05:36.820]  一直鼓励生育

[00:05:36.820 --> 00:05:39.060]  像法国只要你愿意生两个小孩

[00:05:39.060 --> 00:05:41.100]  你一家四口统统政府给你钱

[00:05:41.100 --> 00:05:43.600]  你不比工作

[00:05:43.600 --> 00:05:44.760]  但是这么优惠的待遇

[00:05:44.760 --> 00:05:47.600]  他们都不想生

[00:05:47.600 --> 00:05:50.700]  可见亲子关系

[00:05:50.700 --> 00:05:54.340]  任务是很重大的

[00:05:54.340 --> 00:05:56.920]  你可以看到

[00:05:56.920 --> 00:05:59.980]  我们以前讲的是血缘关系

[00:05:59.980 --> 00:06:04.580]  血缘关系慢慢会变成利害主义

[00:06:04.580 --> 00:06:06.620]  为什么

[00:06:06.640 --> 00:06:11.420]  因为我们看到儿子比较强壮

[00:06:11.420 --> 00:06:14.560]  儿子比较有力气做事情

[00:06:14.560 --> 00:06:17.360]  所以我们就重视儿子不重视女儿

[00:06:17.360 --> 00:06:19.460]  女儿反正要嫁出去

[00:06:19.460 --> 00:06:21.560]  那就变成利害关系

[00:06:21.560 --> 00:06:23.300]  那亲情变成利害关系

[00:06:23.300 --> 00:06:27.260]  那就不像家人

[00:06:27.260 --> 00:06:29.940]  你去看

[00:06:29.940 --> 00:06:34.180]  妻子在产房里面要生小孩

[00:06:34.180 --> 00:06:35.540]  现在我们当然知道

[00:06:35.540 --> 00:06:37.140]  事先就知道生男生女

[00:06:37.140 --> 00:06:38.380]  但是我告诉各位

[00:06:38.380 --> 00:06:41.420]  有很多人还是不主张

[00:06:41.420 --> 00:06:43.360]  生之前去知道生男育女

[00:06:43.360 --> 00:06:45.460]  还是不主张

[00:06:45.460 --> 00:06:47.260]  我现在很多妇产科医生

[00:06:47.260 --> 00:06:49.820]  他有很精密的机器

[00:06:49.820 --> 00:06:51.660]  他一测就知道你是男的女的

[00:06:51.660 --> 00:06:54.560]  但他始终不告诉你

[00:06:54.560 --> 00:06:56.700]  因为怕制造问题

[00:06:56.700 --> 00:06:59.100]  刚怀孕几个月去验

[00:06:59.100 --> 00:07:00.040]  是个女的

[00:07:00.040 --> 00:07:01.640]  我就把他打掉

[00:07:01.640 --> 00:07:04.540]  那不是很糟糕

[00:07:04.540 --> 00:07:06.280]  所以有时候隐瞒是好事情

[00:07:06.280 --> 00:07:07.380]  不是坏事情

[00:07:07.380 --> 00:07:08.380]  一切都公开

[00:07:08.380 --> 00:07:12.040]  不见得是好事情

[00:07:12.040 --> 00:07:13.320]  对不对

[00:07:13.320 --> 00:07:15.080]  不让你知道还有一件好事情

[00:07:15.080 --> 00:07:18.420]  就生下来会有一个惊喜

[00:07:18.420 --> 00:07:20.160]  男的也高兴女的高兴

[00:07:20.160 --> 00:07:23.320]  如果老早什么都知道了

[00:07:23.320 --> 00:07:25.820]  那什么意思

[00:07:25.820 --> 00:07:28.440]  我讲一句话大家做参考

[00:07:28.440 --> 00:07:33.240]  每一个人都知道自己迟早会死

[00:07:33.240 --> 00:07:35.640]  但是大家都不知道什么时候死

[00:07:35.640 --> 00:07:38.740]  怎么死人生才有乐趣

[00:07:38.740 --> 00:07:41.040]  如果你事先就知道你哪天哪夜会死

[00:07:41.040 --> 00:07:41.740]  而且怎么死

[00:07:41.740 --> 00:07:43.440]  实在难不得知道那有什么乐趣

[00:07:43.440 --> 00:07:46.780]  完全没有乐趣

[00:07:46.780 --> 00:07:48.760]  我们今天一直强调知的权利

[00:07:48.760 --> 00:07:51.160]  我要知道我要知道其实是不对的

[00:07:51.160 --> 00:07:53.660]  没有必要

[00:07:53.660 --> 00:07:56.720]  留下一些不知道的东西

[00:07:56.720 --> 00:07:59.560]  留下一些想象的空间

[00:07:59.560 --> 00:08:02.360]  人生更有乐趣

[00:08:02.360 --> 00:08:03.960]  你急什么

[00:08:03.960 --> 00:08:06.000]  生下来才知道就好了

[00:08:06.000 --> 00:08:07.800]  可是你去看

[00:08:07.800 --> 00:08:09.700]  太太在产房里面

[00:08:09.700 --> 00:08:10.500]  小孩一生出来

[00:08:10.500 --> 00:08:12.400]  哇哭起来以后

[00:08:12.400 --> 00:08:13.840]  做爸爸敢不敢问

[00:08:13.840 --> 00:08:14.640]  是男的是女的

[00:08:14.640 --> 00:08:16.980]  敢不敢这样问不敢

[00:08:16.980 --> 00:08:19.580]  你这样问你以后很难做人

[00:08:19.580 --> 00:08:22.880]  因为很多爸爸就犯这个错

[00:08:22.880 --> 00:08:23.860]  一听到小孩生出来

[00:08:23.860 --> 00:08:25.820]  赶快是男的是女的

[00:08:25.820 --> 00:08:28.020]  然后事后给人家传得很难听

[00:08:28.020 --> 00:08:29.160]  重男轻女

[00:08:29.160 --> 00:08:29.860]  男的又怎么样

[00:08:29.860 --> 00:08:31.720]  女的又怎么样

[00:08:31.720 --> 00:08:33.400]  中国人比较聪明

[00:08:33.400 --> 00:08:34.760]  小孩一生下来赶快问

[00:08:34.760 --> 00:08:36.560]  几点几分真的不要紧

[00:08:36.560 --> 00:08:38.440]  赶快记下来几点几分

[00:08:38.440 --> 00:08:40.500]  男的女的抱过来就知道了

[00:08:40.500 --> 00:08:43.180]  你能问吗

[00:08:43.180 --> 00:08:45.840]  很多人就犯这个错

[00:08:45.840 --> 00:08:48.180]  不必问嘛

[00:08:48.180 --> 00:08:51.640]  所以有时候不要有知的权利

[00:08:51.640 --> 00:08:53.520]  有时候有些隐瞒

[00:08:53.520 --> 00:08:57.480]  这个人生是更有趣的

[00:08:57.480 --> 00:09:00.320]  你看我们血缘关系

[00:09:00.320 --> 00:09:01.480]  重男轻女

[00:09:01.480 --> 00:09:03.860]  那叫利害关系

[00:09:03.860 --> 00:09:05.160]  那不是血缘关系

[00:09:05.160 --> 00:09:07.320]  那就走样了

[00:09:07.320 --> 00:09:10.400]  完全扭曲掉了

[00:09:10.400 --> 00:09:12.400]  我们古代的圣贤

[00:09:12.400 --> 00:09:15.640]  绝对不主张利害关系

[00:09:15.640 --> 00:09:19.780]  因为儒家是最反对利害关系

[00:09:19.780 --> 00:09:21.800]  他一直讲我们是什么

[00:09:21.800 --> 00:09:23.520]  我们是有理想

[00:09:23.520 --> 00:09:25.520]  我们有道德

[00:09:25.520 --> 00:09:27.180]  我们讲伦理

[00:09:27.180 --> 00:09:30.220]  我们讲和谐

[00:09:30.220 --> 00:09:34.820]  可见我们是误解了孔子的想法

[00:09:34.820 --> 00:09:37.720]  我想孔子不可能重男轻女

[00:09:37.720 --> 00:09:40.360]  所以凡是重男轻女的

[00:09:40.360 --> 00:09:44.360]  我们都把它叫做利害关系

[00:09:44.360 --> 00:09:46.160]  凡是讲朋友的

[00:09:46.160 --> 00:09:49.440]  我们都把它归纳情感关系

[00:09:49.440 --> 00:09:52.340]  一个人感情用事也是不好的

[00:09:52.340 --> 00:09:55.180]  一个人讲利害也是不好

[00:09:55.180 --> 00:09:57.780]  所以我们这个系列

[00:09:57.780 --> 00:10:00.040]  一直提倡

[00:10:00.040 --> 00:10:01.380]  什么叫亲子关系

[00:10:01.380 --> 00:10:04.480]  就是教养关系

[00:10:04.480 --> 00:10:06.480]  我们对生而不养

[00:10:06.480 --> 00:10:08.960]  我们是觉得这个很不对

[00:10:08.960 --> 00:10:10.420]  我们觉得养而不教

[00:10:10.420 --> 00:10:12.060]  那就更糟糕

[00:10:12.060 --> 00:10:15.320]  你看很多小孩一生出来就常非

[00:10:15.320 --> 00:10:19.100]  母亲无怨无悔照顾他

[00:10:19.100 --> 00:10:22.900]  如果利害关系丢掉就好像累赘

[00:10:22.900 --> 00:10:24.340]  养他一辈子还得了

[00:10:24.340 --> 00:10:27.400]  没有 照顾他

[00:10:27.400 --> 00:10:29.700]  这才了不起

[00:10:29.700 --> 00:10:31.580]  一生小孩就看一看

[00:10:31.580 --> 00:10:33.280]  这个将来有没有出息

[00:10:33.280 --> 00:10:34.780]  找人来算命

[00:10:34.780 --> 00:10:35.780]  他将来会做大官

[00:10:35.780 --> 00:10:36.880]  留下来 不能做大官

[00:10:36.880 --> 00:10:38.280]  丢掉

[00:10:38.280 --> 00:10:43.420]  那像人吗

[00:10:43.420 --> 00:10:46.420]  我们慢慢的感觉到

[00:10:46.420 --> 00:10:49.820]  你生他 你就要养他

[00:10:49.820 --> 00:10:53.060]  但现在知识越来越普及以后

[00:10:53.060 --> 00:10:56.200]  我们越来越多人生而不养

[00:10:56.200 --> 00:10:57.340]  那叫做弃婴

[00:10:57.340 --> 00:10:59.640]  那就叫做弃婴

[00:10:59.640 --> 00:11:00.940]  堕胎是一种

[00:11:00.940 --> 00:11:03.040]  没有生就把他干掉

[00:11:03.040 --> 00:11:06.680]  生下来丢掉叫弃婴

[00:11:06.680 --> 00:11:10.580]  然后收下来让他自生自灭

[00:11:10.580 --> 00:11:13.020]  更残忍

[00:11:13.020 --> 00:11:16.160]  这样算人类吗

[00:11:16.160 --> 00:11:19.020]  所以亲子关系它是很神圣的

[00:11:19.020 --> 00:11:22.260]  不要掉以轻心

[00:11:22.260 --> 00:11:25.600]  我们既然有本事把人家生下来

[00:11:25.600 --> 00:11:28.840]  我们就要负责养他

[00:11:28.840 --> 00:11:31.640]  但是养不是说要给他过很好的日子

[00:11:31.640 --> 00:11:34.000]  不是

[00:11:34.000 --> 00:11:35.700]  不见得家庭富有的人

[00:11:35.700 --> 00:11:38.480]  他子女就会成才

[00:11:38.480 --> 00:11:40.440]  往往家里很贫穷的

[00:11:40.440 --> 00:11:44.120]  将来都出很了不起的人物

[00:11:44.120 --> 00:11:45.620]  世界上真正的伟人

[00:11:45.620 --> 00:11:49.960]  大部分都是出生于贫寒的家庭

[00:11:49.960 --> 00:11:52.020]  而且世界上大部分的伟人

[00:11:52.020 --> 00:11:55.660]  都不是在都市里面诞生长大

[00:11:55.660 --> 00:11:58.000]  因为都市的小孩很闭塞

[00:11:58.000 --> 00:11:59.960]  什么都不懂

[00:11:59.960 --> 00:12:01.500]  只懂电动玩具

[00:12:01.500 --> 00:12:03.840]  什么都不懂

[00:12:03.840 --> 00:12:06.100]  他天天接受那个电视

[00:12:06.100 --> 00:12:09.180]  他就没有思考空间

[00:12:09.180 --> 00:12:10.540]  我们以前没有电视

[00:12:10.540 --> 00:12:12.880]  我们很会想事情

[00:12:12.880 --> 00:12:13.840]  现在有个电视

[00:12:13.840 --> 00:12:15.240]  他什么答案都给你以后

[00:12:15.240 --> 00:12:16.620]  你全盘接受

[00:12:16.620 --> 00:12:18.020]  自己完全不动脑筋

[00:12:18.020 --> 00:12:20.180]  没有创造力

[00:12:20.180 --> 00:12:21.160]  所以很多人跟我讲

[00:12:21.160 --> 00:12:23.060]  现在小孩很幸福

[00:12:23.060 --> 00:12:24.060]  懂得很多

[00:12:24.060 --> 00:12:27.000]  我是完全不能接受

[00:12:27.000 --> 00:12:28.020]  现在小孩懂什么

[00:12:28.020 --> 00:12:30.900]  他就懂人家讲的那套老套

[00:12:30.900 --> 00:12:34.640]  那不一定对的东西

[00:12:34.640 --> 00:12:38.740]  专家讲的话不一定对

[00:12:38.740 --> 00:12:40.580]  你看大家都相信这两个字

[00:12:40.580 --> 00:12:43.340]  你就很惨

[00:12:43.340 --> 00:12:44.880]  他会告诉你

[00:12:44.880 --> 00:12:48.420]  两代之间有代沟

[00:12:48.420 --> 00:12:50.020]  有代沟

[00:12:50.020 --> 00:12:54.620]  我们家完全没有代沟

[00:12:54.620 --> 00:13:01.320]  我跟我爸爸什么话都可以说

[00:13:01.320 --> 00:13:04.320]  我儿子跟我什么话都可以说

[00:13:04.320 --> 00:13:05.400]  将来我孙子跟我

[00:13:05.400 --> 00:13:06.960]  也什么话都可以说

[00:13:06.960 --> 00:13:09.400]  有什么代沟

[00:13:09.400 --> 00:13:11.140]  你接受了他的观念

[00:13:11.140 --> 00:13:12.340]  你就承认有代沟

[00:13:12.340 --> 00:13:16.000]  你就有代沟

[00:13:16.000 --> 00:13:17.100]  像我也知道代沟

[00:13:17.100 --> 00:13:18.100]  因为我读教育的

[00:13:18.100 --> 00:13:20.480]  我怎么知道有代沟

[00:13:20.480 --> 00:13:22.480]  我们家就没有代沟

[00:13:22.480 --> 00:13:25.620]  不可能有代沟

[00:13:25.620 --> 00:13:26.520]  我再说一下

[00:13:26.520 --> 00:13:29.020]  我们现在说忧郁症很厉害

[00:13:29.020 --> 00:13:30.220]  忧郁症很严重

[00:13:30.220 --> 00:13:31.720]  忧郁症是脏死亡原因

[00:13:31.720 --> 00:13:35.520]  我通通不相信

[00:13:35.520 --> 00:13:36.820]  你要相信你就惨了

[00:13:36.820 --> 00:13:38.200]  你就得忧郁症了

[00:13:38.200 --> 00:13:39.860]  我问你

[00:13:39.860 --> 00:13:42.460]  谁人无忧

[00:13:42.460 --> 00:13:44.400]  只要你有一口气在

[00:13:44.400 --> 00:13:47.540]  你就有忧

[00:13:47.540 --> 00:13:52.180]  人如静悠必有远利

[00:13:52.180 --> 00:13:54.980]  人无静虑必有远忧

[00:13:54.980 --> 00:13:58.380]  看你怎么讲都可以

[00:13:58.380 --> 00:14:00.780]  你总有一些烦恼的地方

[00:14:00.780 --> 00:14:02.380]  谁人没有忧

[00:14:02.380 --> 00:14:04.380]  谁人没有利

[00:14:04.380 --> 00:14:07.320]  那为什么这是个症状

[00:14:07.320 --> 00:14:08.420]  可是当你接受以后

[00:14:08.420 --> 00:14:11.100]  它就果然变个症状

[00:14:11.100 --> 00:14:13.160]  你就很惨了

[00:14:13.160 --> 00:14:15.260]  我常常警告这些专家学者

[00:14:15.260 --> 00:14:17.140]  就说天下本无事

[00:14:17.140 --> 00:14:21.580]  都是你们在这里制造问题

[00:14:21.580 --> 00:14:23.300]  要特别小心

[00:14:23.300 --> 00:14:24.980]  老实讲他们是做研究用的

[00:14:24.980 --> 00:14:26.540]  不是拿来公诸于世

[00:14:26.540 --> 00:14:28.440]  去赚钱骗人害人

[00:14:28.440 --> 00:14:31.280]  但是他们搞错了

[00:14:31.280 --> 00:14:32.180]  像我们

[00:14:32.180 --> 00:14:35.280]  我们该讲的话才会在这里讲

[00:14:35.280 --> 00:14:36.180]  我们不该讲的话

[00:14:36.180 --> 00:14:38.480]  在这里我们绝不讲

[00:14:38.480 --> 00:14:40.020]  这个叫做职业伦理

[00:14:40.020 --> 00:14:41.820]  这个叫做职业伦理

[00:14:41.820 --> 00:14:44.060]  职业道德

[00:14:44.060 --> 00:14:46.560]  我们只可以讲应该讲的

[00:14:46.560 --> 00:14:49.360]  不能讲我喜欢讲的

[00:14:49.360 --> 00:14:51.140]  但现在很多人都在抓住机会

[00:14:51.140 --> 00:14:55.140]  就猛讲自己喜欢讲的

[00:14:55.140 --> 00:14:58.440]  那个是害人害己

[00:14:58.440 --> 00:15:06.480]  各位

[00:15:06.480 --> 00:15:08.080]  我们没有代沟

[00:15:08.080 --> 00:15:10.260]  不要相信那一套

[00:15:10.260 --> 00:15:11.720]  只要你家里没有代沟

[00:15:11.720 --> 00:15:13.260]  代沟就是个名词

[00:15:13.260 --> 00:15:15.300]  不是实际的东西

[00:15:15.300 --> 00:15:16.720]  只要你接受了

[00:15:16.720 --> 00:15:18.360]  你从心里头认定有代沟

[00:15:18.360 --> 00:15:22.960]  你们家两代之间无法沟通

[00:15:22.960 --> 00:15:25.460]  那算什么父母

[00:15:25.460 --> 00:15:26.800]  我儿子现在美国

[00:15:26.800 --> 00:15:31.100]  他已经是大学的副教授

[00:15:31.100 --> 00:15:33.880]  他的论文在美国很受欢迎

[00:15:33.880 --> 00:15:36.880]  但是他有什么事情打电话问我

[00:15:36.880 --> 00:15:38.640]  有什么代沟

[00:15:38.640 --> 00:15:40.940]  不可能有代沟

[00:15:40.940 --> 00:15:46.420]  孔子他是特别重视教养关系

[00:15:46.420 --> 00:15:53.160]  因为他觉得做人要有一套道理

[00:15:53.160 --> 00:15:56.060]  你看朋友是讲什么的

[00:15:56.060 --> 00:16:01.640]  你想想朋友相处讲诚信

[00:16:01.640 --> 00:16:06.440]  那我们亲子也讲诚信吗

[00:16:06.440 --> 00:16:08.640]  妈妈告诉小孩子

[00:16:08.640 --> 00:16:10.240]  你再不乖

[00:16:10.240 --> 00:16:11.740]  你再不乖看看

[00:16:11.740 --> 00:16:14.680]  大野狼就把你叼去了

[00:16:14.680 --> 00:16:17.520]  难道这种话也不能讲吗

[00:16:17.520 --> 00:16:19.520]  那不然你怎么办

[00:16:19.520 --> 00:16:20.620]  小孩就是哭啊

[00:16:20.620 --> 00:16:23.620]  躺在地上就不听话了

[00:16:23.620 --> 00:16:24.420]  你一定有办法没有

[00:16:24.420 --> 00:16:25.360]  你报警察吗

[00:16:25.360 --> 00:16:28.200]  警察也不理你

[00:16:28.200 --> 00:16:29.400]  你打电话找谁

[00:16:29.400 --> 00:16:31.660]  人家都不理你

[00:16:31.660 --> 00:16:32.400]  你告他

[00:16:32.400 --> 00:16:33.700]  你再不乖

[00:16:33.700 --> 00:16:35.140]  大野狼把你叼走了

[00:16:35.140 --> 00:16:36.300]  妈妈也救不了你

[00:16:36.300 --> 00:16:38.900]  小孩就静下来就好了

[00:16:38.900 --> 00:16:41.480]  但是这是不诚信嘛

[00:16:41.480 --> 00:16:45.140]  你骗人啊

[00:16:45.140 --> 00:16:46.880]  那如果连这一招都不行的话

[00:16:46.880 --> 00:16:50.220]  那你怎么当妈妈

[00:16:50.220 --> 00:16:53.420]  但是很多专家是不赞成这样

[00:16:53.420 --> 00:16:55.060]  叫我养成什么养成什么

[00:16:55.060 --> 00:16:58.360]  我觉得很奇怪

[00:16:58.360 --> 00:17:01.700]  一个人从来没有经过这些

[00:17:01.700 --> 00:17:02.760]  是是非非

[00:17:02.760 --> 00:17:08.840]  他是一辈子长不大的

[00:17:08.840 --> 00:17:10.880]  你把他封闭起来

[00:17:10.880 --> 00:17:12.700]  把他保护的好好的

[00:17:12.700 --> 00:17:14.680]  任何事情都不让他知道

[00:17:14.680 --> 00:17:18.480]  他将来变白痴一个

[00:17:18.480 --> 00:17:20.280]  你会发现很多人他有博士学位

[00:17:20.280 --> 00:17:22.820]  但是他完全是白痴

[00:17:22.820 --> 00:17:24.080]  他只是教课本的东西

[00:17:24.080 --> 00:17:27.260]  其他他应该不懂

[00:17:27.260 --> 00:17:29.620]  那教这样的人有什么用

[00:17:29.620 --> 00:17:34.220]  你培养出这样的人有什么用

[00:17:34.220 --> 00:17:35.300]  一个人要知道好的

[00:17:35.300 --> 00:17:36.700]  也要知道坏的

[00:17:36.700 --> 00:17:39.460]  要知道善的也要知道恶的

[00:17:39.460 --> 00:17:40.600]  要知道好的一面

[00:17:40.600 --> 00:17:43.200]  也要知道坏的一面

[00:17:43.200 --> 00:17:47.640]  这才一个比较完整的人

[00:17:47.640 --> 00:17:48.740]  保护起来

[00:17:48.740 --> 00:17:50.780]  这个不行那个不行

[00:17:50.780 --> 00:17:53.580]  那就完了

[00:17:53.580 --> 00:17:57.060]  人类是要经过尝试的

[00:17:57.060 --> 00:17:59.560]  但是要安全

[00:17:59.560 --> 00:18:01.220]  只要在安全的范围之内

[00:18:01.220 --> 00:18:03.520]  尽量让小孩去尝试

[00:18:03.520 --> 00:18:05.700]  不要禁止他

[00:18:05.700 --> 00:18:07.700]  但是你不能规定他要做什么

[00:18:07.700 --> 00:18:09.000]  不可以

[00:18:09.000 --> 00:18:13.300]  我们慢慢还是要把这些说清楚

[00:18:13.300 --> 00:18:15.400]  我们家里面

[00:18:15.400 --> 00:18:18.300]  我们不是重视权利义务

[00:18:18.300 --> 00:18:28.520]  我们重视一种很特别的东西

[00:18:28.520 --> 00:18:31.220]  叫成全

[00:18:31.220 --> 00:18:32.520]  我不晓得大家对成全

[00:18:32.520 --> 00:18:35.720]  这两个字有什么感想

[00:18:35.720 --> 00:18:37.800]  你看我们以前

[00:18:37.800 --> 00:18:39.300]  让儿子去读书

[00:18:39.300 --> 00:18:40.860]  让女儿留在家不读书

[00:18:40.860 --> 00:18:42.900]  我们就说重男轻女

[00:18:42.900 --> 00:18:45.540]  那跟重男轻女什么关系

[00:18:45.540 --> 00:18:47.440]  我们中国人是兄弟姐妹当中

[00:18:47.440 --> 00:18:49.500]  来看一看哪个比较适合读书的

[00:18:49.500 --> 00:18:51.140]  就让他去读书

[00:18:51.140 --> 00:18:53.680]  哪个比较适合学工艺的

[00:18:53.680 --> 00:18:55.340]  就让他去当徒弟

[00:18:55.340 --> 00:18:57.140]  哪个比较适合种田的

[00:18:57.140 --> 00:18:59.040]  就让他去耕种

[00:18:59.040 --> 00:19:01.880]  这有什么不对

[00:19:01.880 --> 00:19:03.220]  全家人读书

[00:19:03.220 --> 00:19:04.880]  没有一个读得好

[00:19:04.900 --> 00:19:08.640]  因为我们经济有限

[00:19:08.640 --> 00:19:11.000]  每一个人都去平均供应

[00:19:11.000 --> 00:19:14.040]  大家都不行

[00:19:14.040 --> 00:19:16.040]  倒不如你比较会读书

[00:19:16.040 --> 00:19:17.880]  你就代表我们全家去读

[00:19:17.880 --> 00:19:20.420]  我们所有的人都成全你

[00:19:20.420 --> 00:19:21.620]  你好好读

[00:19:21.620 --> 00:19:24.220]  所以为什么一个人一成名一赚钱

[00:19:24.220 --> 00:19:26.160]  就要回馈兄弟姐妹

[00:19:26.160 --> 00:19:27.620]  这外国人每次都问我

[00:19:27.620 --> 00:19:29.700]  他搞不懂

[00:19:29.700 --> 00:19:30.920]  哥哥赚钱有办法

[00:19:30.920 --> 00:19:32.360]  为什么要照顾弟弟妹妹

[00:19:32.360 --> 00:19:33.860]  那干了什么事

[00:19:33.860 --> 00:19:35.000]  就是我们弟弟妹妹

[00:19:35.000 --> 00:19:37.300]  统统成全这个哥哥

[00:19:37.300 --> 00:19:39.140]  把所有心力都做给他

[00:19:39.140 --> 00:19:42.900]  他起来你就回来照顾我

[00:19:42.900 --> 00:19:44.940]  这本来就应该这样

[00:19:44.940 --> 00:19:47.320]  因为我们不是个人主义

[00:19:47.320 --> 00:19:49.340]  不是单打独斗的

[00:19:49.340 --> 00:19:52.980]  我们是整个家庭在奋斗

[00:19:52.980 --> 00:19:54.260]  我当哥哥的

[00:19:54.260 --> 00:19:55.580]  我读书比较不行

[00:19:55.580 --> 00:19:56.380]  我就不读了

[00:19:56.380 --> 00:19:57.460]  弟弟你有办法

[00:19:57.460 --> 00:19:58.420]  全力让你去读

[00:19:58.420 --> 00:19:59.500]  我提前去做工

[00:19:59.500 --> 00:20:02.160]  我赚钱帮助你去读

[00:20:02.160 --> 00:20:05.400]  你这样才能把一个人造就出来

[00:20:05.400 --> 00:20:08.360]  这个成全是非常了不起的事情

[00:20:08.360 --> 00:20:09.700]  那我们今天把它当作什么

[00:20:09.700 --> 00:20:11.840]  把它当作剥削这个人

[00:20:11.840 --> 00:20:13.440]  然后去帮助那个人

[00:20:13.440 --> 00:20:16.140]  是示利眼不公平

[00:20:16.140 --> 00:20:18.340]  这不糟糕了

[00:20:18.340 --> 00:20:19.180]  你看我们现在

[00:20:19.180 --> 00:20:20.740]  为什么很多人会离婚

[00:20:20.740 --> 00:20:23.180]  台湾有一个案例最妙

[00:20:23.180 --> 00:20:25.480]  那个两个人都是博士学位的

[00:20:25.480 --> 00:20:25.980]  就离婚了

[00:20:25.980 --> 00:20:28.260]  就为了喜欢离婚

[00:20:28.260 --> 00:20:30.560]  他们两个谁也不喜欢

[00:20:30.560 --> 00:20:33.060]  我是博士我还洗碗

[00:20:33.060 --> 00:20:34.820]  那你是博士我就不是

[00:20:34.820 --> 00:20:36.360]  你不洗我也不洗

[00:20:36.360 --> 00:20:37.200]  那怎么办

[00:20:37.200 --> 00:20:38.760]  就开始像西方一样

[00:20:38.760 --> 00:20:39.700]  全力义务

[00:20:39.700 --> 00:20:41.000]  钱可同

[00:20:41.000 --> 00:20:42.640]  一个人洗一餐

[00:20:42.640 --> 00:20:45.040]  谁都不要跑

[00:20:45.040 --> 00:20:45.980]  对不对

[00:20:45.980 --> 00:20:47.280]  那更好了

[00:20:47.280 --> 00:20:48.140]  轮到先生的时候

[00:20:48.140 --> 00:20:50.240]  先生就乖乖的洗

[00:20:50.240 --> 00:20:50.980]  那轮到太太

[00:20:50.980 --> 00:20:52.480]  那太太更厉害

[00:20:52.480 --> 00:20:53.140]  吃完以后

[00:20:53.140 --> 00:20:53.820]  这个是你的

[00:20:53.820 --> 00:20:54.480]  记清楚

[00:20:54.480 --> 00:20:55.740]  这种颜色是你的

[00:20:55.740 --> 00:20:57.820]  然后两个都放冰箱

[00:20:57.820 --> 00:21:00.260]  放冰箱没有细菌

[00:21:00.260 --> 00:21:03.460]  晚餐再拿出来吗

[00:21:03.460 --> 00:21:04.560]  先生很气啊

[00:21:04.560 --> 00:21:05.520]  轮到我就洗

[00:21:05.520 --> 00:21:07.000]  轮到你就放冰箱

[00:21:07.000 --> 00:21:07.560]  离婚

[00:21:07.560 --> 00:21:10.460]  离婚就离婚了

[00:21:10.460 --> 00:21:13.060]  那就算什么人生

[00:21:13.060 --> 00:21:14.360]  所以现在有很多年轻人

[00:21:14.360 --> 00:21:16.300]  就跑来问我

[00:21:16.300 --> 00:21:19.080]  我们家洗碗的问题很严重

[00:21:19.080 --> 00:21:20.440]  到底怎么洗法

[00:21:20.440 --> 00:21:21.600]  我说很简单

[00:21:21.600 --> 00:21:22.640]  非常简单

[00:21:22.640 --> 00:21:24.920]  你们两个自己衡量一下

[00:21:24.920 --> 00:21:26.420]  如果两个都没有出席

[00:21:26.420 --> 00:21:27.540]  两个通通都没有出席

[00:21:27.540 --> 00:21:29.680]  一个人洗一餐

[00:21:29.680 --> 00:21:31.280]  如果先生比例要出席

[00:21:31.280 --> 00:21:32.520]  太太洗碗

[00:21:32.520 --> 00:21:33.860]  如果太太比例要出席

[00:21:33.860 --> 00:21:36.160]  先生洗碗

[00:21:36.160 --> 00:21:39.020]  你总要把精力弄到一个人上去

[00:21:39.020 --> 00:21:40.960]  他才有办法

[00:21:40.960 --> 00:21:42.360]  你偷垮两个人

[00:21:42.360 --> 00:21:45.440]  就是都没有出席

[00:21:45.440 --> 00:21:47.200]  这才叫做伦理

[00:21:47.200 --> 00:21:50.200]  不知道什么叫伦理

[00:21:50.200 --> 00:21:51.140]  你长得高的

[00:21:51.140 --> 00:21:52.580]  天花板你负责

[00:21:52.580 --> 00:21:53.300]  我长得矮的

[00:21:53.300 --> 00:21:54.880]  地板我负责

[00:21:54.880 --> 00:21:57.040]  这本来就这样子

[00:21:57.040 --> 00:21:58.280]  你非要一个人搞一半

[00:21:58.280 --> 00:22:00.140]  那我死定了

[00:22:00.140 --> 00:22:02.680]  我怎么过也过不着

[00:22:02.680 --> 00:22:03.880]  那就是假的平等

[00:22:03.880 --> 00:22:07.360]  那不是真的平等

[00:22:07.360 --> 00:22:09.760]  权权就是我们家里

[00:22:09.760 --> 00:22:11.760]  哪一个比较行

[00:22:11.760 --> 00:22:13.860]  我们全力支持他

[00:22:13.860 --> 00:22:17.060]  最起码他可以上进一点

[00:22:17.060 --> 00:22:20.100]  这是非常好的一个构想

[00:22:20.100 --> 00:22:24.500]  但是被人家解释成重男轻女

[00:22:24.500 --> 00:22:25.740]  我很坦白讲

[00:22:25.740 --> 00:22:28.280]  我观察三十年

[00:22:28.280 --> 00:22:34.140]  全世界最重视女权的是咱们中华民族

[00:22:34.140 --> 00:22:35.480]  你看我们过母亲节

[00:22:35.480 --> 00:22:36.620]  永远过得很慎重

[00:22:36.620 --> 00:22:39.420]  过爸爸节都是马马虎虎的

[00:22:39.420 --> 00:22:42.120]  都是马马虎虎

[00:22:42.120 --> 00:22:44.120]  我们永远是母亲最伟大

[00:22:44.120 --> 00:22:47.020]  永远是怀念母爱

[00:22:47.020 --> 00:22:49.300]  我们就是说黄河是我们的母亲

[00:22:49.300 --> 00:22:52.040]  从来没有说黄河是我们的父亲

[00:22:52.040 --> 00:22:53.600]  当时在外国很多人跟我讲

[00:22:53.600 --> 00:22:56.400]  你看你都没有跟你太太拿过椅子

[00:22:56.400 --> 00:22:58.840]  跟你太太穿衣服

[00:22:58.840 --> 00:23:00.440]  我说我如果讨一个太太

[00:23:00.440 --> 00:23:02.140]  讨到连自己椅子都拿不动

[00:23:02.140 --> 00:23:03.980]  我也算了

[00:23:03.980 --> 00:23:06.380]  他自己拿嘛

[00:23:06.380 --> 00:23:08.880]  我们重的是关心他

[00:23:08.880 --> 00:23:11.280]  重的是替他设想

[00:23:11.280 --> 00:23:13.720]  而不是说替他做行事

[00:23:13.720 --> 00:23:15.620]  拿衣服拿椅子

[00:23:15.620 --> 00:23:18.600]  那做给谁看呢

[00:23:18.600 --> 00:23:20.400]  西方人比较重形式

[00:23:20.400 --> 00:23:22.160]  比较重外表

[00:23:22.160 --> 00:23:23.700]  中国人重实际

[00:23:23.700 --> 00:23:26.460]  我们重内心

[00:23:26.460 --> 00:23:30.000]  我也希望各位要去分别一下子

[00:23:30.000 --> 00:23:33.440]  我们疼小孩不能说出来

[00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:37.580]  西方人疼小孩一定说出来

[00:23:37.580 --> 00:23:38.680]  这是文化不同

[00:23:38.680 --> 00:23:43.780]  但是我们比较了解价值是什么

[00:23:43.780 --> 00:23:46.160]  不是中国人不敢讲

[00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:48.920]  而是中国人知道不讲比较好

[00:23:48.920 --> 00:23:50.900]  我举个例子

[00:23:50.900 --> 00:23:54.460]  你看我们每年到了母亲节的时候

[00:23:54.460 --> 00:23:55.460]  小孩一定会问

[00:23:55.460 --> 00:23:58.440]  妈妈母亲节快到了

[00:23:58.440 --> 00:24:00.240]  我送你什么礼物

[00:24:00.240 --> 00:24:02.340]  我还没有发现有个妈妈告诉小孩

[00:24:02.340 --> 00:24:04.280]  你要送什么

[00:24:04.280 --> 00:24:07.480]  都说不要乖就好了

[00:24:07.480 --> 00:24:09.720]  那小孩就真的没有送

[00:24:09.720 --> 00:24:10.580]  然后过了母亲节

[00:24:10.580 --> 00:24:13.320]  妈妈脸就臭起来

[00:24:13.320 --> 00:24:16.280]  我说不要就没有送

[00:24:16.280 --> 00:24:18.120]  那你问干什么

[00:24:18.120 --> 00:24:20.720]  这才是中国人

[00:24:20.720 --> 00:24:21.680]  我问很多妈妈

[00:24:21.680 --> 00:24:23.360]  我说你就干脆告诉你儿子

[00:24:23.360 --> 00:24:25.000]  你要什么就好了

[00:24:25.000 --> 00:24:28.260]  拆来拆去多累

[00:24:28.260 --> 00:24:29.860]  妈妈说真的要我讲是不是

[00:24:29.860 --> 00:24:30.700]  那我儿子就惨了

[00:24:30.700 --> 00:24:32.560]  我跟你讲

[00:24:32.560 --> 00:24:34.340]  明年母亲节他敢问我

[00:24:34.340 --> 00:24:36.900]  妈妈母亲节快到了

[00:24:36.900 --> 00:24:38.680]  我送你什么

[00:24:38.680 --> 00:24:40.000]  我就告诉他

[00:24:40.000 --> 00:24:42.140]  妈妈想自己搬出去住

[00:24:42.140 --> 00:24:43.920]  你跟我买一套房子

[00:24:43.920 --> 00:24:45.140]  送我一套房子

[00:24:45.140 --> 00:24:46.320]  他惨了

[00:24:46.320 --> 00:24:51.320]  做不到只会乱开口

[00:24:51.320 --> 00:24:53.320]  我说那你叫你儿子怎么办

[00:24:53.320 --> 00:24:55.860]  他说他自己会想啊

[00:24:55.860 --> 00:24:58.060]  我需要什么他最知道啊

[00:24:58.060 --> 00:25:02.060]  他不知道专算

[00:25:02.060 --> 00:25:03.940]  这才是中国人

[00:25:03.940 --> 00:25:06.280]  你有诚意你自然知道

[00:25:06.280 --> 00:25:08.640]  你没有诚意问你是假的

[00:25:08.640 --> 00:25:09.780]  白问

[00:25:09.780 --> 00:25:11.840]  我们不像西方

[00:25:11.840 --> 00:25:13.240]  你看西方人家送你礼物

[00:25:13.240 --> 00:25:14.780]  你会当上面打开来

[00:25:14.780 --> 00:25:16.780]  好高兴我很喜欢这个

[00:25:16.780 --> 00:25:18.180]  谁是这样

[00:25:18.180 --> 00:25:21.980]  中国人谁是这样

[00:25:21.980 --> 00:25:23.120]  中国人要送东西来

[00:25:23.120 --> 00:25:24.420]  不要不要不要客气

[00:25:24.420 --> 00:25:25.520]  不要客气

[00:25:25.520 --> 00:25:26.060]  客人走了

[00:25:26.060 --> 00:25:28.720]  赶快打开来看里面是什么

[00:25:28.720 --> 00:25:34.600]  他两种文化不同

[00:25:34.600 --> 00:25:36.960]  哪里可以盲目学习

[00:25:36.960 --> 00:25:38.380]  你学到最后变成是不是这样

[00:25:38.380 --> 00:25:40.780]  整个乱套了

[00:25:40.780 --> 00:25:45.420]  我们现在社会就是乱套了

[00:25:45.420 --> 00:25:48.280]  西方有西方的生态环境

[00:25:48.280 --> 00:25:50.420]  有他的文化背景

[00:25:50.420 --> 00:25:53.760]  他要怎么做是他家的事

[00:25:53.760 --> 00:25:55.620]  我们规规矩矩

[00:25:55.620 --> 00:25:57.660]  既然是一个中国人

[00:25:57.660 --> 00:25:59.700]  我们要讲品德修养

[00:25:59.700 --> 00:26:01.840]  我们要凭良心

[00:26:01.840 --> 00:26:04.800]  我们爱是实际的行动

[00:26:04.800 --> 00:26:07.640]  而不是嘴巴讲

[00:26:07.640 --> 00:26:12.340]  挂在嘴巴上的都非常不可靠

[00:26:12.340 --> 00:26:13.680]  我们亲子关系

[00:26:13.680 --> 00:26:15.220]  不要再讲以前的

[00:26:15.220 --> 00:26:17.780]  纯粹的血缘的利害关系

[00:26:17.780 --> 00:26:19.620]  那是不可以的

[00:26:19.620 --> 00:26:21.220]  我们教养

[00:26:21.220 --> 00:26:23.160]  我们很难得有个小孩

[00:26:23.160 --> 00:26:25.820]  好好把他教养成人

[00:26:25.820 --> 00:26:28.720]  我们对社会有一份贡献

[00:26:28.720 --> 00:26:30.600]  我们对我们的民族

[00:26:30.600 --> 00:26:33.800]  出了一份的心力

[00:26:33.800 --> 00:26:35.900]  只要一代比一代好

[00:26:35.900 --> 00:26:37.840]  中国人一定强

[00:26:37.840 --> 00:26:39.240]  一代不如一代

[00:26:39.240 --> 00:26:41.440]  我们就完了

[00:26:41.440 --> 00:26:43.680]  可是我们现在

[00:26:43.680 --> 00:26:46.140]  我们的小孩是不是会比我们好

[00:26:46.140 --> 00:26:47.880]  我看不见得

[00:26:47.880 --> 00:26:49.220]  不见得

[00:26:49.220 --> 00:26:51.180]  很危险

[00:26:51.180 --> 00:26:53.920]  因为我们很多观念是错的

[00:26:53.920 --> 00:26:55.120]  以为说我只要给他钱

[00:26:55.120 --> 00:26:55.980]  我就是爱他

[00:26:55.980 --> 00:26:57.460]  那就糟糕

[00:26:57.460 --> 00:26:58.220]  我满足他

[00:26:58.220 --> 00:26:59.300]  我就是爱他

[00:26:59.300 --> 00:27:00.820]  糟糕

[00:27:00.820 --> 00:27:03.760]  他爱怎么样叫做儿童本位

[00:27:03.760 --> 00:27:05.760]  随他去就叫做

[00:27:05.760 --> 00:27:07.000]  爱的教育

[00:27:07.000 --> 00:27:09.340]  那全完了

[00:27:09.340 --> 00:27:12.000]  所以我们这次为什么

[00:27:12.000 --> 00:27:14.940]  鸣价论坛会把这个当作一个专辑

[00:27:14.940 --> 00:27:17.080]  就是感觉到我们现在社会

[00:27:17.080 --> 00:27:18.680]  真的有这个需要

[00:27:18.680 --> 00:27:19.980]  还请大家多指教

[00:27:19.980 --> 00:27:20.480]  谢谢

[00:27:21.780 --> 00:27:22.180]  谢谢

[00:27:22.180 --> 00:27:24.180]  谢谢大家

[00:27:24.180 --> 00:27:24.680]  谢谢大家

[00:27:24.680 --> 00:27:50.920]  谢谢观看